I don't know why it's gotta be neurotypical vs neurodivergent anyways. My audhd partner is absolute shit sometimes at explaining things in a way that me, a person with a brain tumor, can understand. He'll leave these gaps in his instructions because it seems obvious and intuitive to him, then get frustrated when I misunderstand.

Like, there was this time I was helping him cut some really long 2x4s, where the boards were long enough that it was off the saw table, which was making them bend and not cut right. So he had me go stand at the end and "keep them straight", which I interpreted as keeping the end from drooping AND/OR wandering off course. He just wanted me to keep it from drooping. So he got irritated that we had to try a third time, snappy with me about clarifying questions, and I still don't quite understand why keeping it from wandering off course was a bad thing.

Likewise, I'm also horrible at explaining things sometimes. My brain sometimes straight up forgets words, and I'm just over here hoping you can understand what I mean by "that thingie" and charades.