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Right, but afaik neopronouns don't have a specific gender they refer to, so using neopronouns instead of they/them isn't any different regarding accommodating your gender identity, it's only different in terms of accommodating your preferences for the language used to describe that gender. It is a signal of potential gender identity denial, but it's such a low-power signal that any other signal should easily overpower it. It should be clear from someone's other behaviors what they believe.
You don't get to decide how someone interprets your message. I do not use neopronouns but I'm going to tell you right now it's the height of hypocrisy dictate which pronouns should be ignored.
I swear to god people will write paragraphs about why its okay for them to not use someone's preferred pronouns instead of just changing a word in their lexicon for that person.
God forbid we accommodate the people we interact with.
You're applying this way too personally. I am not talking about whether I personally would use someone's neopronouns. I'm talking about whether it makes sense to expect them to be used. Plenty of things in society don't make sense to do but unfortunately must be followed to signal various things, such as gender acceptance.
Anyways many of these issues have several "simple" solutions. I try to determine what is the right thing to do, not what is the easiest. It's usually easy to accommodate someone-- using neopronouns or accepting gender-agnostic ones isn't very hard, and both of these solutions happen daily for various people precisely because they are relatively easy-- the question is which one makes the most sense to push for societally. Since I don't believe gender is relevant to most interactions, I would push for universal applicability of gender-agnostic terms.
TL;DR: There are multiple solutions that could "just" be implemented, why do you think the one you have chosen is the best?