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i have a couple of women on dating apps who repeatedly match me then accusing me of being someone else and threaten to report me. I block them.
also lots of them IRL and on dating apps refuse to interact with me further once they find out where I grew up or that my parents aren't educated. because that means i'm not from a 'good family'. I also find this totally insane... but I guess it's fairly normal for people to judge you based on your parents/hometown?
I will say the weirdest fight I ever got in in a relationship/dating was a Russian woman who lost it on me because I eat breakfast cereal. She went on this rant about how cereal/granola is for children and grown men can only eat toast, fruit, or eggs/sausage breakfast. She was so weird, but a every Russian woman I have dated has really backwards ideas about gender roles and they also disapproved of my lack of heavy drinking.
That's very sad.
Wtf? I feel like where someone is from matters the least out of any dating quality when searching for a partner.
Honestly if anything growing up a certain way and then no longer being that shows growth and willingness to change. Both good qualities.
according to the women I meet you can't ever change. probably because they themselves haven't ever changed.
like I have had people argue with me that I am a Catholic because I was born into a catholic family and baptized, even though I haven't ever been to church since I was like 10 years old. they tell me I'm lying to myself when I say I'm agnostic/atheist. It's weird.
My last relationship ended because I told her I used to smoke weed. When I met her, I had already been about 18 months without a smoke, we didn't start dating until 6 months after first getting to know each others. So by the time things got "official" I had been about 2 years without a single smoke. But according to her, that was a deal breaker and apparently people can't change, I think she was trying to tell me that I'll start smoking at any moment now.
Well, I guess she was right, since last weekend I smoked two joints, one on Friday and one on the Saturday. But this was about 14 months after we broke up. But yeah, she was totally correct with that one. The only good thing was that we were officially dating for like 6 to 8 weeks, so it wasn't like a huge loss and devastation.
Anyway, that sort of put me off from dating, probably for good. I decided that if someone knocks on my door and tells me that we are now dating, I'll try it out. But I won't be seeking anything anymore. Its not worth the hassle at this point, I'm getting too old and I'm a introvert anyway. I'm fine with hanging alone at home, I can listen to whatever music I want, I can watch whatever movie/tv-show I want, I can play whatever game I like, I come and go however I want.
I mean, the Catholic kids who had to take CCD class after school tried to tell me the same thing, but we were 7. I’ve never had an adult tell me that parental religion is inescapable.
In the sense the poster is talking about you're correct mostly, but when you're marrying outside the country/culture it is harder and may not be worth it for some.
Wtf!? I have type 2 diabetes and I still can't resist some peanut butter crunch on occasion
I bought some healthy coca based cereal (the kind that is priced like steak) but my wife likes Cpt Crunch peanut butter cereal. So I make a 50-50 mix of the two and get a peanut butter cup type result that is slightly healthier. :D