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How is this survivor bias?
People that didn't work hard and live boring lives conforming to societal expectations died younger and weren't interviewed.
That's an interesting thought. I've always told the people I've managed that no one's on their death bed wishing they worked harder, especially when they're not using all their vacation time or parental leave.
If we could ask those who died young, worked into an early grave, would they be content to have died for their manager? Exhausted, with feelings unspoken, friendships neglected, and happiness deferred? One of my colleagues is a literal workaholic and would probably say yes to all (but they know not everyone is like them and doesn't expect the same from the rest of us.) I suppose we must imagine Sisyphus happy.
For me, there is profound difference between finding meaning in a burden we choose to carry and pushing someone else's boulder.
I was only explaining how this could be survivorship bias. I dunno if I would jump to that conclusion.
They had time to answer a poll before dying.
Some only got to answer 3
Yeah, the regrets we're missing from the non survivor pool are:
Just be quicker then
So in other words, the things they are wishing for are what kill you early.
Apparently one common thought of people that survived jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge is not "in glad it's all over now", but "I could have solved all those problems except for having just done this".
I'm not sure I buy that in cases of really bad depression, but in more situational situations, yeah, I'm sure realising you have the power to even just walk away or stop caring about some big stressor is probably really powerful.
Ofc in the regular world most people would rather die than, say, walk out on their family or their job.