Why is being a nice and good person less rewarding? (lemmy.zip)

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tried to stay positive, then misfortune strikes
tried making friends, ended up ghosted
tried looking for better job, then scammed
tried save money, inflation happens
tried sell product online, fees and tax cut, also less buyers.
tried theraphy, the solution only dont think about it, its okay (if only it was that easy)
tried being nice, taken advantage of
tried being honest, get hatred
tried religion, yet god let million of nice person suffers
tried sleep, need regular medication
tried work hard, ended up surgery and years of rehabilitation

at this point, i am so tired with whatever i do, it always doesnt work.

right now i can relate why some people choose to become evil person, because being good and nice person in this world is just not as rewarding as bad people does. even those people who ghosted and bullied me ended up becoming rich and succesful, and here i am struggle everyday. life is really unfair world.

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[-] kindnesskills@literature.cafe 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Bad shit will happen. Shit happens to everyone. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. But if you're trying to do good and be good, that can be a comfort in trying times, because how you feel inside is what matters when it comes to who you are.

Do you want to be a good person? What does that mean to you; how do you expect a good person to behave? How do you feel when you act against those expectations?

When shit happens you can feel bad because shit happened AND feel bad because you were rude about it.... or you can feel bad because shit happened but ALSO feel good because at least you tried to be kind and understanding and didn't yell at anyone or make someone else feel bad.

I'd rather feel bad (about things) and good (about myself) than bad (about things) and bad (about myself). That is the reward: at least you tried.

[-] shojivr@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 days ago

tbh what i want is become rich, succesful, lucky, have many friends, healthy, and have no problems in life, literally living in easy mode and so far being nice for me doesnt give me those thing i want.

[-] kindnesskills@literature.cafe 1 points 3 days ago

Those things are not dependent on if you are nice or not (well, it's easier to make good friends if you are nice, of course).

You'll never live in easy mode regardless of if you are nice or mean. You need money and other such privileges for easy mode (and even then everyone has their struggles).

You can choose between struggling and being a good person, or struggling and being a bad person. Good or bad doesn't change the outcome.

this post was submitted on 12 Oct 2026

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