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this post was submitted on 13 Oct 2026
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First of all - you have a point. Certain things are seen as creepy.
Secondly, it's not a good one. It rests on the presumption that you "know why they both have those backgrounds". No offense, but men who liked to sew were seen as creepy.
By your logic, a good citizen should report anyone with an anarchist symbol on their desktop because they are plotting active insurrection (we all know why they have them right).
The reality is they could just like the pattern and have no idea of the context, or their vision of the context could be different (Planescape Anarchs ftw), or (and let's be honest here) it could be Ankh-zone levels of misunderstanding, or let's really go for it - they could just be all mouth to fit in.
Grandmas should love their grandkids, but how many really do (ye gods I've met some awful grandparents)? Guys should all be sexually aggressive, except a lot of eggs need a vision (how many gender dismorphic men dream of the childhood they never had - fyi this is 100% of the people I know with anime schoolgirl avatars) and a lot of men try to hide who they really are behind d false machismo (the overcompensation of closeted gay men being legenday). Funny how that works.
I'll judge folks for who they are, not how I want to see them.