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Entrapment seems about right
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This world view is very self-centered, and also inconsistent.
Inconsistent: Your argument is essentially, "you can abandon your aging parents, but you can't abandon a child." False. If you're okay with abandoning aging parents, why not leave a child up for adoption? Both are, quite frankly, gross concepts
Self-centered: Humans are social creatures, and part of being social is community. And I mean IRL community. For many that community include immediate and extended family. For others, it's found family. Either way, yes, a person can "walk away", and there are consequences. Also, I'm taking care of my mom. She's 85. If I abandon her, she'll be put in a home, and all of her things become property of the state. So, to a degree, she is my responsibility, as well as my other siblings. If we abandon her, her community will help, but not to the degree that she could maintain her independence and quality of life. And it would break her heart. Is there something wrong with how she lived her life?
I can't tell if you're just young, or very socially isolated, or both. Yes children bog a person down, shackle them to a way of life that allows the child to (hopefully) thrive. So do other things. If a person is so isolated they can pull up stakes and go with a snap of their fingers that person is deeply wrong with how their living their life.
Feel like the whole parent thing here you're giving is also naive, as it's assuming a decent relationship with the parents.
Yes, I assume most people have at least a nominally healthy relationship with their parents. Perhaps that's naive. I don't assume everyone does, but even with found family a healthy balance includes older parental/Uncle/Aunt type figures that get older and sometimes need help.
My greater point is that no ~~man~~ person is an island. We are (almost) all anchored by various social responsibilities. Those ties that bind also add richness and variety to life
...Ummm no. If I were to abuse someone or something , even a pet, why in the fuck would I expect 'sOcIal RepSonSibIlTiEs' to keeo them connected to me? Abuse is a choice. By making the choice to abuse someone or soemthing a person has lost all rights to be tied to that thing. Ive burnt The Social Contract and now must fave the consequences. Its not hard to just not be an asshole and to just use a little critical thinking and little empathy.
Abuse and abusers adds no 'richness' to life. If anything they destroy life , and those abusers probably spent most of their life doing what IOF soldiers are currently doing in Palestine or what american marines did in Iran and Afghanistan. Do people like this add 'richness' to anyone's life in your opinion? Lool!
Some people are forced to become an island.
I'm sorry, what? When did abuse ever come up? I think you might be way inside your own head there. The entire point of found family is when your birth parents are either dead or abusive and you've gone no contact. Where in my reply did I say you have to stay with abusers? What are you even talking about? You're reading my reply from the perspective of an abusive parent. I'm talking about how decent people always are connected to others. There is some seriously toxic projection going on in this thread
Also, often if someone says another person "probably" does something, without evidence, their argument is invalid. Go touch grass, friend, and think about something positive. You definitely need it
Having children is a choice, and you agree to be responsible for them.
Being born is not.
Being raped and forced to give birth isn't a choice.
Sorry, I haven't considered such a possibility.