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Finally watched I Saw the TV Glow (lemmy.world)
submitted 2 days ago by captainlezbian@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Yeah finally got around to watching it tonight and I was basically sobbing the whole time. It wasn't quite what I expected, but it was so amazingly good. In addition to capturing the feeling of being an egg and seeing someone like you. The connection hit really hard as well. It also just did an amazing job of conveying dysphoric disassociation. I also loved the use of monochrome lighting and fluorescent coloring to blur the feeling of real and unreal.

So yeah, absolutely amazing cathartic cry movie, though IDK if it's a great one to show to cis loved ones to show how it feels.

And it's made me feel the need to get around to watching Veneno, which I've been putting off for several years. I suppose I don't get to complain about not having enough great trans media if it exists and I don't watch it, so I guess I gotta go watch it. When I do I'll try to remember to post a review of it too. I've already seen the first episode and loved it.

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[-] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 2 days ago

there is still time hit so hard, especially because it was exactly what I was thinking. It is never too late, but every day living a lie is a day you'll never get back.

More generally, it's important to remember that nobody can save you; only you can change yourself.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yeah but

Tap for spoilerThe 20 year time skip immediately afterwards just fucking broke me

I was much more Maddie than Owen, even if in high school it didn't seem that way. And now I'm thinking of the poor girl who came to talk to me a few times in college and came out to me but never began transitioning at least from what I saw. She was always too scared. Inanna bless her.

But also it got me thinking of the first trans girl I knowingly saw IRL. I was already committed to transitioning then, and IIRC I was out to a friend by then. She was like a heavily tattooed angel, showing me I wasn't headed to my doom, but to finally being a person instead of a hollow pit. We'd gone to high school together apparently, though she was two grades ahead of me, but there she was at a party, living like I'd dreamed of.

That's really how it broke me, there is still time, but I'm so immensely grateful for the years I didn't lose and for the fact that I didn't suffocate buried alive in that grave that Mr Melancholy put me into. And yet it also made me cry for the years I did lose, of being a teenager. And for all my sisters who lost the same and more.

[-] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago

I cried my guts out from that moment till pretty much the end of the movie. I was very much an egg at the time.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

Also just the entire movie I was just thinking "please girl no, don't make these terrible choices, you aren't alone, please understand it and make the right choice."

It's never too late to save yourself, but every day it's too late to save yesterday. It's so easy to watch the years slip by disassociating and feeling empty, completely losing so much you could have had, if you'd had the courage sooner…

Others can reach out a hand, but you have to grab it. And you don't need that hand to be saved, it just helps. All it takes is you.

[-] faercol@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago

After watching this movie, I just couldn't get out of my mind that... It could have been me.

I could have remained in denial my entire life, and realizing, 60 years from now (I if had still been alive I guess...), that it was not me, and that it was killing me. And this perspective terrified me.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I've always felt lucky in a way that my dysphoria hit "transition or die" at 19/20. But without that it could have been me. It was such a soul ache of a movie

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