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How do I stop masturbating?
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Don't. NNN is incel bullshit.
"incel" is not a movement or a commutity, its a life circumstance when one experiences celibacy involuntarily. You should stop using that as an insult
Sounds like a community to me.
Wikipedia is biased, and in this case its straight up wrong. See their 'circumcision' article for example
Can you be more specific about which part you think is wrong?
'incel' is a life circumstance that has been existing for thousands of years, not an "internet subculture". The closest thing to that is probably some internet forums
If you only want to use the word in the narrow literal sense, fine.
I don't think that's very useful. We don't really need a special word for a virgin that can't get laid. But we do need one that describes when people start blaming all women and form a misogynistic mindset around it. That's how I choose to understand and use the term.
That's like calling every criminal a n***er because of stereotypes associated with black people
what the fuck
No, it's not anything like that. My point was exactly the opposite: If you're just a virgin that can't get laid but you deal with it like a normal human being, you're not an incel. Just a virgin and there is nothing wrong with that.
It's would be more like calling every one has every played a game a gamer. Technically true, but utterly useless as term.
That's the very definition of it, not my fault normies raped this term
again, WHAT THE FUCK
Sure thing, bro. But at the same time, it seems to be a nice mental exercise, all of that internet stuff aside.
Well if it's an exercise don't tie it to a month. Just try not to do it and see how long you last and try to increase it over time.
I'm still not sure what the point would be or why you want to exercise that.
Fair point. The thing is that it has gotten pretty bad with time, and has affected me mentally just as much (low self-esteem, anxiety when going outside and a few others). All I want to do for now is get rid of the addiction itself, not the act. I can obviously allow myself to do it from time to time, as long as it's healthy.
I mean if you even consider doing NNN it can't be that bad? What do you think an addiction is? Are you late for your job because you can't stop masturbating?
But if that's not the case and you can go even just a few days without it and not doing it more than ... well, let's say 5 times a day (depending on age), it's probably not an addiction.
It is, kinda, the case. More than that, I sometimes start to feel physically uncomfortable if I'm not touching myself or even doing it as a background activity while my main one doesn't even arouse me sexually (like watching some NBA clips). I'm in my early to mid 20's.
Is it touching yourself or full on masturbation? Men have their hands in their trousers all the time when no one is looking. I'm almost double your age and I when I'm home alone just watching shows I fiddle with my dick all the time ... not even in a sexual way.
If that is what you do, that perfectly normal .. I think. Or we're both weirdos.
Its not even a strictly male thing either. The amount of women I've witnessed completely casually slap, jiggle, etc... their bits is comparable to males (in my totally unscientific and anecdotal experience)
Oh yeah, I don't doubt that at all!
Something in-between I'd say. When I'm doing it, it's an automatism. When I don't, I feel kinda uncomfortable and I have to do it. Also, sometimes I rub one out just to feel kinda normal again (for another, let's say, hour) and not have to crave it. I'm doing it not out of pleasure, but out of I don't even know what at this point.
Tho I'm pretty sure that we're not the only ones fiddling around, so it's chill... I think haha.
As long as you can control it enough so you don't suddenly wank off in a public or an otherwise inappropriate setting, it should be fine. If it's an issue, maybe consider getting a therapist.
Will look into it. Many thanks!