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Sometimes I have been talking with a friend and one of us says something that sparks a question in my head. The urge to look it up is powerful. Yes it's rude but so is verbally interrupting in order to share the thought before the topic is gone. I mention this not as an excuse but to say it doesn't necessarily mean they aren't interested in what you're saying, and sometimes they're still listening even though they're look at the phone.
Also "inslut" includes an example of its own meaning.
No, I wouldn't mind if someone took out their phone to look something up that was related to the topic, that is understandable and can be politely done without disturbing a conversation. But the reason to pick up their phone has only been to scroll Tiktok or Instagram, and what made them pick up the phone was not because they lacked interest in the subject, but because an ~~unconscious behavior urge~~ addiction. Some people can multitask, most can't, and some say they can but really can't.
As I mentioned, both have genuinely excused themselves and apologized every time it has happened, and we all pretty much laugh it off at this point. They usually roll their eyes and sigh at themselves for "doing it again", it's not really a situation where I even have to say something before they notice themselves. If I didn't take the excuse seriously I wouldn't take it so lightly, but since they are self aware of the habit and apologize there's nothing else to say. It's their choice if they want to continue with their addiction or not, and as awful as it may sound - at least they are self aware, not everyone are.
Haha, thanks for the catch! Ever since I recently enabled autocorrect on my phone these strange spelling errors has started to occur. Don't ask me how it reasoned there.