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You can call this "pretentious concern", you can call me mean and two-faced, I don't care...I care about men. And even though I've said some horrible stuff, I love and care about them.
So please, reach out. I won't judge you, no matter what ❤️
What horrible stuff have you said about men?
Eh...I was having a massive fight with my boyfriend and I was really pissed. I said something along the lines of "I hate all men, I'm never getting together with a man again"
I think I blamed the way he was on him being a man...which was fucking stupid of me tbh and it's bullshit, cause yes, I am indeed getting together with another man if I ever end up single. Duh 😂 /s
I regret it. It was wrong. It was just misandry. It was stupid...
As a representative from the Men's Delegation, I think it's completely forgiven if:
It was private
You didn't mean it
You apologized
He knew it was a sincere apology
We all make mistakes. If you have hate for men in your heart, that's different.
Omg! Men's Delegation, I'm honored! 😭
And of course I didn't mean it! Everyone around here knows I freaking love men, honest! 🩷
I wanted to make sure he got it, I wanted to make it sincere! Don't judge me 😭
Thank you. It was a mistake. I certainly do not have hate for men in my heart, lol. Thank you 💜
I guess in a perfect world you'd want to edit your hateful comment to express it was said in anger and you apologize, but as you imply it might be impossible to find it, let alone find everyone who read it. I'm a bit confused as to how/why your private fight with your partner spilled onto Lemmy, but I guess that's none of my business other than the tut-tut for the public expression of hate.
I basically only frequent Lemmy out of all social media and I like it a lot here. I feel like I can express each and every thought freely, which is both a good and bad thing.
So when something like that was going on in my life, I went to the only place I know.
And yeah, we've fully made up now. It's been a while, too. We're totally good! Thank you 🩷
This is not a big deal. We all get hyperbolic in upset moments. It only matters how you resolve it and live going forward.
I think it's a medium deal. I've never gone on a racist/sexist/etc. rant out of anger in my life.
Then you have people like Cosmo Kramer who have a moment of rage that ~~inspires~~ presents as bigotry and "totally didn't mean it" when they apologize profusely.
I'm sure some people forgive him, but I don't.