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No One Actually Believes That Cis Is A Slur, Here’s Why They Pretend To — Katy Montgomerie
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this post was submitted on 21 Jun 2023
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To be fair, as a cis white male, I use cis white male as a slur quite regularly. Right up there with dusty white folk.
If a slur is simply 'to talk about disparaginly or negatively' then that is exactly how I was using it and I don't regret it. (I got the definition from the second definition of the google first result but from duckduckgo not google.)
Does making the negative generalizations about cis white folk like myself make me a bad person? Probably. Is it going to stop me? Probably not.
It certainly isn't stopping them from dropping N-bombs, or other slurs. Talking shit about people who are just trying to live their lives. Interfering with people who just want to fucking exist in peace.
Am I stooping down to their level? Certainly.
Do they deserve it? Yes.
Should I be bothered that I'm not taking the high road? Not turning the other cheek? No.
These fucks aren't going to learn unless you slap them in the goddamn face with it. Bigotry hurts. They deserve to hurt. Maybe they'll learn, maybe we'll learn. Maybe we won't. At least it's justice. I am a cis white male.
"to talk about disparaginly or negatively" is the verb form of "slur", the noun form is a little bit different. You can slur Elon Musk by calling him a privileged phony, but that doesn't make "privileged" or "phony" slurs themselves.
A more fitting definition of "slur" in the sense that it is used here is "a derogatory or insulting term applied to particular group of people". "Cis" is not a derogatory term, just like "trans", "white", or "Black" are not themselves derogatory terms. You can probably imagine some actual slurs that apply to each of these groups (tbh I'm having a hard time thinking of one for "cis"), but I don't intend to write them out here.