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Thanks for the TLDR and it's a very intriguing idea.
On one hand, "battling/fighting" cancer kind of gives a kind of strength to the patient that they can possibly overcome and survive the illness, while struggling, coping etc. would not.
On the other hand, the article is right that by using that term, many patients and people around them may implicitly pin the failure to fully treat cancer as a failure of the patient themselves.
The best thing I can come up with off the top of my head is "dealing with cancer". Terms like coping with cancer imply a weakness. Dealing seems like a neutral middle-ground to portray the strength of the patient through the ordeal while recognizing that the situation isn't all in the patient's control.
Yep, exactly how I feel.
I don't agree with use of 'coping' or 'struggling' at all. They usually evoke a sense of pity from what I have seen, and that can be crushing for the patients themselves. The word 'Fighting' is a double edged sword, but it has it's benefits, and evokes a sense of solidarity from supporters that 'coping' does not.
'Dealing with' sounds nice, yeah. Someone I knew online used 'muddling through', but 'dealing' sounds better
"Dealing with" is pretty much exactly what cope means. Per Merriam Webster:
"to deal with and attempt to overcome problems and difficulties —often used with with"
Personally I do think it works well for this situation. Though I've been very fortunate to not have been diagnosed with cancer yet, so I consider my input...less relevant.
Eh, dictionary definition is not always indicative or sometime outdated about the way the word is used irl - in this particular case, I feel 'cope' has a more helpless feel to it, while 'deal' seems to give more agency to the person in question.
Granted it's all subjective and dependant on how those words are used in one's circles, though.
I'm fortunate for the same reason as you and have the same opinion