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Brother in law adopted a young dog a week ago.
Very nice pitbull that got along well with people and the other dogs at the gathering, including ours. It had been adopted and given up two times in its life already for no reason of its own (emergency in adopted family life then an unexpected passing of the next adopter). It emotionally bonded so quickly to my brother in law.
Issue is, my brother in law is a mess himself. Young with a lot of personal issues, barely home, and not able to commit to taking care the pup. He impulse adopted the dog and really realized that this past week.
He decided this morning to give it back to the shelter. We, along with other family members offered to take the dog instead of giving it up. He's a great dog and only needs a bit of training that is expected with any young pup. Brother in law, stubborn as he is, outright refuses any option other than giving it back to the shelter. No care for the realistic hard chance it will have getting adopted again after being given up for a third time. The pup has a real chance for a good life but no, shelter it must go.
The oven also died so no buns.
Edit: We are planning on getting in contact with the shelter he adopted from to see what our options are if he is returned there. We expect to have to fully adopt with everything that entails. We'll be out some money but the pup will be in an active home instead of a 8x4 cell.
Hopefully there is some thinking done tonight and the pup will be rehomed without the shelter step.
It's hard to admit you've made such a big mistake. The magnitude of the solution directly relates to the magnitude of the mistake. If you got a jacket that you wind up not liking, no one would be put out if you returned it to the store. He's only stubborn because he's trying to convince himself he didn't fuck up that bad.
A dog isn't a jacket.
That was the point. Most people understand that. I'm saying the brother in law is trying to convince himself his mistake is on the same level as getting a jacket you don't like.
Additional friction, fees, and the real chance that the shelter might not put the little guy back up for adoption.
Yeah, it might work out if you can get in touch with them ahead of time.
Great username BTW
People who treat animals like they're objects belong in a shelter. They should not be allowed to care for pets.
I think is safer for everyone involved that he returns the animal to the shelter and then adopt it from there. It's better legally for everyone.