A little while ago, I finally come out as trans to my friends. They've been wonderful, supportive, and encouraging. They were honestly the whole reason I finally was able to discover myself, especially my GF. But, and here's the key, I'm in a very delicate living situation, I'm pretty poor, and I can't reasonably just leave where I am and live somewhere else, not right now at least. Between the world and my rather transphobic family, I'm kind of stuck. I obviously can't get more feminine clothing, hair, ANY makeup of any sort, or anything I really want to try. I don't wanna make this a whole sob story or anything, so basically. Does anybody have some advice to FEEL more like a girl?

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[–] hellothisisdog@yiffit.net 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

a really great therapist i had once gave me this advice when i struggled with coming out: "there's no right way to be trans". your resources are definitely going to keep you from trying too many new "femme" experiences, but you could try thinking of anything you already know as "femme" and keeping a kind of "bucket list" of things to try and seeing if it resonates with you and understanding how you can feel most comfortable in your own skin and how you express yourself to the world. i know i won't be too much help here (as i'm transmasc) but i'm sure a lot of our experience is shared, just different (: wishing you all the safety and support 💙

[–] Silvia@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Thank you so much! I'll see what I can do.