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Yay for short weeks! Boo for still having to get the same amount of work done though...
(Please note, I am officially an old person™ and use ellipses as a way to trail off an unfinished thought, not for whatever the young'uns have reassigned it for)
Wait, what have the young'uns reassigned ellipses for?
Also old here, and use them often as you do.
Apparently they are seen as rude or awkward. Which... Tough. When I talk I tend to trail off a bit once I've gotten the point across and I guess I just do it in text out of habit, too.
But actual old people use them in a different way that I still don't understand.
They're used in quotes to signify that some words have been taken out but that's about the only other use that I can think of.
Now that I think about it, I think I use them so much because I'm used to them from reading comics.
Nah off the top of my head I think it might have been like they do it when they are expecting a reply, so other generations make them think they are supposed to reply or something.
Having been on the receiving end of it from two people professionally, wracking my brains over what their problem was, until I learned how they were actually meaning it:
The trailing ellipses feels like it's 'politely' avoiding saying the "obvious" conclusion out loud. And if someones avoiding saying it, it's probably negative. That's why it's seen as passive-aggressive.
To my generation it sounds like, I dunno, saying "Where there's smoke...".
Are you in the younger than normal or older than normal generation?
I think im getting older than normal lately.
Ok good to know! I tend to avoid ... in work emails because I know it can be taken in different ways, I should probably avoid it in other online posts too...