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How do you tell gender envy from attraction? (beehaw.org)
submitted 1 year ago by Stoneblackdog@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org
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I am currently on vacation and going to the beach sucks because I see these girls my age and think "Holy shit, I want to look like that." But then I get heavy impostor syndrome. Maybe this is just me being attracted and wanting to be trans, so my brain makes it think it's envious when it's just attracted? So, how do you tell envy from attraction?

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[โ€“] Evergreen5970@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sorry, I thought I was being helpful. Should I delete my comment?

[โ€“] hoyland@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

No, no. The "oh god that'd be terrible" reaction is probably a pretty good indicator one isn't trans (or at least I've never encountered a trans person reporting that pre-transition), it's just that people sometimes assume the "well that'd be odd, but whatever" reaction doesn't exist in people both cis and trans.