this post was submitted on 19 Apr 2024
583 points (96.6% liked)

Greentext

4459 readers
1035 users here now

This is a place to share greentexts and witness the confounding life of Anon. If you're new to the Greentext community, think of it as a sort of zoo with Anon as the main attraction.

Be warned:

If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.

founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] ikidd@lemmy.world 0 points 7 months ago (8 children)

Isn't an asexual girlfriend just a friend?

[–] mriormro@lemmy.world 35 points 7 months ago (3 children)

If you think romantic relationships are just sex+friendship then you're probably shit at romantic relationships.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 23 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

~~Why? I honestly don't get it. I want my partner to be my best friend, but I don't think about my other friends sexually even if I do love them like family.~~

~~I don't want kids so I don't think about partners in that respect. I do want them to be my last relationship though.~~

Edit: I'll leave it, but I just continued to read the comments and found an answer I understand and agree with. I just never put enough thought into it I suppose.

[–] Hamartia@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

That's the way. Don't let your growth be limited by a psychological chastity cage.

[–] melpomenesclevage@lemm.ee 6 points 7 months ago

unless you think that's hot. then maybe.

[–] DriftinGrifter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago

i mean in fairness so is the guy from the greentext

[–] melpomenesclevage@lemm.ee -3 points 7 months ago

or really good at friendship and probably not the best at sex.

[–] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 21 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I thought it means they reproduce asexually. So one day the GF will just randomly be pregnant with modern Jesus.

[–] Patches@sh.itjust.works 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Deleted by creator

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 7 months ago

Budding buddy!

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 16 points 7 months ago

I mean, I’m asexual and intensely sex-repulsed, and my wife is asexual too, and I am madly in love with her even after being married for eight years.

It’s romance and friendship; she’s my best friend and wife. I’ll kiss her, hold her hand, rub her back and feet, buy snacks for her, loads of stuff I wouldn’t do with my friends.

I mean, I bought a house with her. I wouldn’t do that with just anybody.

[–] Worx@lemmynsfw.com 13 points 7 months ago (1 children)

No. Imagine two Catholics are dating and don't want to have sex before marriage - are they just friends? There's a lot more to romance than just sex, and I feel sorry for the partner of anyone who doesn't realise this

[–] Xanis@lemmy.world 14 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Like it or not, sexual compatibility and intimacy is very important to a lot of people, and a lot of partners. There is more to a romantic relationship than sex, this is very true. However, downplaying the importance of a key component of a love language does no one any favors.

[–] Furball@sh.itjust.works 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

They aren’t downplaying its importance, they are saying that for some people, sex in a romantic relationship isn’t necessary. This doesn’t go for most people and most people do need it in a relationship but everyone’s experience is different

[–] Worx@lemmynsfw.com 2 points 7 months ago

Understood perfectly 👍

[–] chuckleslord@lemmy.world 10 points 7 months ago

Asexual != Aromantic

[–] stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

bro can't imagine romance without sex

[–] LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 14 points 7 months ago

In fairness I think aromantic and asexual get confused a lot

[–] Drama_durch_Lama@feddit.de 5 points 7 months ago

Relevant Bojack Horseman scene It gets complicated when boats are involved.

[–] arin@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

Lol you can fuck girls who aren't your girlfriend