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This was my view too. It was barely calling her a bitch, it was basically referring to her actions as being annoying. But I expect that is heavily soaked in my view of these words, and many people would be offended by this comment.
The word has joined the ranks of trigger words that really set some people off.
It means female asshole. There's plenty of woman who are complete assholes. Men too. I don't get it.
See, that's what I thought too, and that's how I've always interpreted and used it. But there is a not insignificant group of people who think it represents systemic misogyny, and even white supremacy. One of my lifelong friends gets really worked up over the word, and has lectured me at le length about it. I think he's overanalyzing everything, and granting words way more power than they're supposed to have. But I feel that way in general about a lot of hot topic subjects right now. Out of respect for his views I don't use that word around him any more. I generally use it less overall now that I know it triggers some people, and I guess I probably haven't used it towards a woman since learning how some people view it.
Sometimes using a word to commonality takes the sting out. Grammatical gender is built into the bones of our language and I've always considered bitch to be apart of that. I very rarely use the word and if comes up I guess I'll ask them if they prefer asshole instead.
Oh, I agree with you, and I'm actually kind of pissed at my friend for ruining a perfectly good adjective for me, but at the same time I want to respect people, so...
In this context, I feel it has more of the sting of "dick". What a dick for requesting so much stuff. She's a bitch for requesting so much stuff.