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So I thought I had figured myself till now. But I was clearly wrong...

So the last few days have been incredibly confusing as I reflected on my gender identity. I'm definitely a boy, that's for sure. I wouldn't want to go by any pronouns except he/him. The they/she stuff simply isn't me.

I don't want to dress up in a feminine manner (I don't think I would be comfortable in skirts and thigh highs and what not...). Like... I haven't tried that yet, but I really doubt I would be much interested in it. I like my current wardrobe.

HOWEVER, I want a feminine-ish body. Like... not boobs or anything. I find boobs quite repulsive. BUT I would definitely love to have a more feminine butt/dick. I like tucking, WHILE loving my dick.

I hate body hair/facial hair. The only place that I like hair on is my head. And while my hair is long-ish, it isn't girl-like long. Like... the intention is not to look like a girl.

I dunno, it's weird I suppose... Here's one way to put it. If estrogen didn't give me boobs, I would LOVE to take it. I would love to have a higher voice, better head-hair, and a girlier butt and dick. BUT I would still identify as a male while being in male-like clothes.

What the hell am I? I'm definitely not trans. I don't think I'm a femboy, as I would hate doing makeup/wearing skirts n stuff. I'm so confused.

Oh, and I'm gay if that's relevant.

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[–] Paraponera_clavata@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like you're a regular person with thoughts and preferences for how your body looks, like all people. Don't think it's about being trans, sorry to disappoint. Just my 2 cents though.

[–] UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee 2 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Oh yeah, I'm definitely not trans for sure. About the rest, I dunno... Like... Do my male friends think stuff like this too?

[–] snooggums@midwest.social 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Some might, others don't. The important thing is that with the billions of people on the planet there are plenty of other people who do.

You are not alone.

[–] knightly@pawb.social 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I wouldn't know, but I hear that cis guys are generally uncomfortable with being feminine.

[–] snooggums@midwest.social 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Cis guys are taught to be uncomfortable with feminine things.

Glam rock is a blatant example that men can be feminine and over the top masculine at the same time.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You might be non-binary, keep in mind you can still use he/him while being non-binary. Gender has no rules, be whoever you want and use whatever pronouns feel best.

[–] UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee 1 points 8 months ago

Wow, I wasn't aware of this!!! That sounds liberating honestly... I'm definitely gonna be exploring what being nb means now...

[–] FluorideMind@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

Bro, you're uraniumblazer. You don't need a label to be yourself.

[–] knightly@pawb.social 0 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

You might be nonbinary!

Seriously, I'm enby and I've been on hormone therapy for 8 months, and your description is just a few degrees manlier than myself.

I use any pronouns and have a girly butt and itty bitty titties, but I've also got a fancy moustache, short hair, and a wardrobe that's mostly jeans and t-shirts. The only makeup I wear is nail polish and the occasional bit of eyeliner. You can totally be nonbinary or a gender-nonconforming guy and still keep the masculine aspects of your presentation, there's no rule against that! 😄

IIRC, they're even testing out some new forms of hormone therapy that can give you soft skin, fairer hair, and a girly butt without growing your tits, but you'd still need to do voice training since hormones don't raise your register.

[–] UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

fancy moustache

I've no idea, but you're just this in my head canon now.

a girly butt without growing your tits

WHAT!!! That's amazing! I should read about this more.

But hey, thanks so much for the comment! Perhaps I should research more about being non binary. This was really helpful! You're amazing <3

[–] knightly@pawb.social 0 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

fancy moustache

I've no idea, but you're just this in my head canon now.

Lol, more villainous than French, but yeah. XD

a girly butt without growing your tits

WHAT!!! That's amazing! I should read about this more.

Yeah! I came across this study when I was doing my pre-HRT research. They're called Selective Estrogen Receptor Modulators or SERMs.

You're amazing <3

No, you! XD

[–] UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

WOAH THAT'S A COOL MOUSTACHE!

Yeah! I came across this study when I was doing my pre-HRT research. They're called Selective Estrogen Receptor Modulators or SERMs.

Seems quite promising! From what I understood, the stuff adds up theoretically and has been in use for cis women already. It's just that experimental evidence doesn't exist for the nb folk for this specific purpose. Considering this, I'm hopeful for something to come up in the next five years ig!

No, you! XD

Goddamn pawb.social furries... Always so cute...

[–] knightly@pawb.social 1 points 8 months ago

Hehee, thank you so much!

Do let us know how your gender journey goes! I'd never have had the courage to start on hormone therapy if I hadn't stumbled across other amab enbies who blazed the trail before me, and I'm genuinely chuffed to help others find themselves in or adjacent to my rare little corner of genderspace. 😸