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My (maybe controversial) theory is that software engineering is a deeply creative and self-expressive field, more closely related to art and literature than to the "hard" sciences. But it has the clear upside that it isn't stigmatized like Art & Literature, so getting into it isn't met with the same amount of scrutiny & criticism, especially for people who present in a masculine way.

Neurodivergence

my theory is that trans people are drawn to the internet and therefore, by chance, technology, because it's easier to freely choose how to present and find a safe space

Someone should do a study into this, I'm genuinely curious why there's such a huge association (me included :3)

Many get into computers when they are younger and before they realize they are girls, they continue doing it after they come out because they like it and/or it pays well.

Because it's cool af

computer people don't do sports --> muscle atrophy --> slim --> already looks more like a girl --> easy to transition

Because it's awesome and cool, is there really a better reason? That's the reason I'm into computer stuff, and also why I'm a femboy.

Can't believe you'd suggest that's the only way thigh-highs would be good for programming, I'm insulted

Person below yours just did:
https://sh.itjust.works/comment/15095872

Also it's better to link it like !unixsocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone since it works for people on remote instances.

Shakespear rolling in his grave because even he used singular they...

Plot twist: They're a they/them user and you just misgendered them either way.

Looks more functional than OOP to me

As someone who doesn't get the gender feelies at all, dresses and sarongs are cool (as in, good for warm weather). High socks are so amazing that everyone wore them for much of the middle ages (they're warm!). Called hosen wool socks and a tunic was ordinary commoner attire. (And yes, your nethers and janglies were free to the open air underneath. Laundry without machines was too labor intensive for non-nobles to have underwear.)

Makeup is weird, but looking amazing is fun. (My experience with it was on stage, and putting on eyeliner was hard to do without flinching.)

While I can appreciate a cool tool (say tweezers with a magnifying lens attached) tactical stuff painted black doesn't make sense in contrast to stuff painted a bright color that can easily be seen (on the assumption that I'm not in combat hidden in cover), bright pink is fine except when everything else is also bright pink. (A lot of beach dayglo colors are meant to be well offset against the ocean greens and blues).

Now that's on the practical side. Some folks get a HUGE buzz from representing according to their gender identity. Trans folk know this because wearing the stuff they like is [regarded by others as] weird in contrast to the stuff that mom bought them while they were growing up, so they've had cause to actually explore this aspect of themselves.

But there are guys who like to double down on butchness and gals who like getting ready for the night out more than the going out, itself. And then there are dudes who, no matter how masculine they represent, feel inadequate and wussy, which likely informs alpha male rhetoric and the far-right man-o-sphere pundits.

Find out, try it.

Personally I think so, especially thigh highs, they are very comfy. Oversize hoodies are also very nice as well.