People tweeting stuff. We allow tweets from anyone.
RULES:
I think people are sleeping on the power of "The Shrug"™️
Whenever someone is asking why are you not following the societal norm, just 🤷 Don't explain yourself, let them try to rationalize to you why the norm is good actually. Then you can finish them with "Okay?" followed by another shrug.
Works every time.
Disagree on all of this y'all sound mad tone deaf.
Some people had bad parents, some had none, some hit the age of 21 with no actual adult to learn from.
People need information and affirmation and support. Stop being the judgey fucks you're preaching don't exist out there. If nobody is that judgemental then let them ask on the safety and confidential internet you fuckin goblins
let them ask on the safety and confidential internet
Can't tell if you're being facetious or not.
I found it deeply uncomfortable that there's people who take the direction of an online community and base their real life actions upon it. making choices about their relationships, marriages, csaeeere, health and so on.
For every grain of truth or solid perspective given there are 10 which are pointless or unproductive and ar least a couple which were wrong or dangerous.
None of this is real, its tiny snapshots in a moment of time, stripped of all context but preserved.
But this is in support of those people. The tweet is responding to people who believe these behaviors are something that is considered worthy of judgement, and are advocating that they should be exempted. This tweet is instead saying they already are and have been. So no validation has ever been needed, and if you felt otherwise, you were wrong. So you can feel free to do this and likely other things you felt self-conscious about because nobody cares.
As a former travelling worker, I ate a significant portion of my meals alone at a restaurant, never thought it could be perceived as weird before these memes started floating around reddit
I usually just chalk those memes up to teenagers who overthink everything or socially immature people. I often decompress at lunch by leaving the office and grabbing a meal alone somewhere.
I’m kinda reminded of that Kurzgesagt video on loneliness. The video talked about how people who experience loneliness begin to pay more attention to other’s expressions but interpret them incorrectly as negative.
I never heard anything about it as a teenager but both get to hear people's opinions and have them try to force themselves into joining me 'so I won't be alone' as an adult.
Definitely extroverts projecting.
I have seen people express how weird they find people wanting to eat alone occasionally throughout my life, and even had some volunteer to eat with me "so I wouldn't be alone". When I say that I wanted to eat alone, they expressed genuine concern that it is weird to not want company. If I let them sit and talk then they feel good about themselves and leave me alone for a bit.
Honestly the pressure I got from being pestered about eating alone ended with me just eating lunch at my desk and I absolutely love work from home. Going out with coworkers once a month was plenty. They are fun and all, but most times I just want eating to be when I take a break from other people.
I still do and prefer it. I also go to bars by myself on and off. A buddy of mine would decline going to lunch with anyone else so he could go decompress. About once a week he'd come back bitching because someone would go into an empty restaurant and sit as close to him as possible.
My favorite story of his complaining (rightfully so in my opinion) is where he went to a restaurant with benches around the perimeter and sat in the corner far from the only other customer there. He hadn't been there two minutes before some woman came and sat on the bench seat closest to him and started asking him about the book he was reading and generally making small talk. He got so pissed that he ate in his truck for weeks instead of sitting down in a restaurant.
I think she was badly trying to flirt and didn't have the situational awareness to understand that he was trying to get away. He thinks she didn't want to look like she was eating alone and didn't care that she was intruding on a stranger.
I don't think there's anything wrong with offering to sit with somebody who's eating by themselves (although I myself do prefer to be left alone while I eat, too), but Jesus Christ fucking ask first it's not hard. "Hey, mind if I sit here?". See? Done. That's all it takes. 6 words. Just expect that you might get a no, and that that's okay. Also, don't ask after you've already sat down, or while you're half sitting already
"Hey, mind if I sit here?"
"Yes."
"Wow, rude."
One of my first jobs was at a movie theater, back when you had to physically splice film reels together. Doing so meant you had to watch the whole thing for quality assurance…so I saw every new film at 0300 in an empty theater and it was fantastic. Going to a movie with other people around feels weird and cramped
How I saw all the lotr films
I don't go to the movies at all, fuck that industry - and I say that as someone who met his wife working at a movie theater. But restaurants, I eat solo all the time. There are dozens of us!
I've been going out alone to all kinds of places for years. Nobody blinks an eye.
One time I went alone to a restaurant on Valentine's Day and somebody paid for my meal. I wasn't even lonely.
Advice I've given my wife and my kids. Never make plans with anyone to do anything that you aren't happy to do alone.
Dinner? I'll eat alone
Movie? I'll watch it alone
Wife isn't in the mood? I'll just lay in bed and beat it next to her.
Hiking trip? Alone in nature is great.
Worst case scenario you still get to go have fun. Middle case, next time that person asks about doing something you get to remind them about all the fun you had without them.
One of these things is not like the others
Yeah, hiking is the only one done out in nature.
But is it?
The sentiment in question is a response to someone else being weirded out and posting it online.... No one is seeking validation lol they're asserting that it's normal.
People who act creepy and take videos or pictures of someone out doing something alone and posting it online are the weird ones.
This context should be obvious
I always see movies alone. Preferably early in the day in a deserted theatre if possible. Movies are very much a ‘me time’ activity. I go at least twice a week with my unlimited movie pass.
It’s just not needed to drag someone else along, especially if they aren’t as interested in the movie to begin with.
Going to restaurants alone is one of my favourite things. All the same food and drink, but you can just enjoy it quietly and not have to keep up with conversation.
I don't go places with people for social validation. I do it because doing those things by myself is incredibly boring.
Everyone in here saying how fun going to the movies alone is. Idk. I've done it before, it was pretty lame. I'd way rather go with a friend and have someone to talk about the movie with. Going all alone sucks.
Unless I'm traveling for work I don't really want to go to the movies or restaurants alone. Living room and takeout is better.
I used to go to restaurants alone and I the last time I did it the waitress/owner started asking what I do and gave me the impression that she felt sorry for me.
Now it has been a while that I didn't go. It wasn't because of her but it I feel like it.
She said on the internet, asking others to normalize it rather than just doing it herself without seeking validation.
"Normalize dining alone."
"No you're wrong, you should normalize dining alone."
i upvote therefore i validate
It's not that I can't do these things alone. It's that I'd rather have someone there with me.
Very clearly not the point op is making at all
Like, the point they're making and your comment are completely unrelated
As OP, I am blown away at how many commenters are missing the point.
Come to Japan. Here, they have all sorts of seating at places specifically for people to be alone.
I go to restaurants alone when I'm out and about by myself, because a man's gotta eat. But why would I choose to go to a movie theater by myself? I can just stay home and watch a movie for free, while being more comfortable. I go to the movies specifically for the event which is shared with the person/people I go with. Do some people go to the movies just to see the movie? Is the bigger screen that important?
On the opposite, I don’t really get movie theatre as a social activity.
Watching a movie is a passive, solitary activity that you do in the same place and time as other people. It feels to me like it has the same social significance as meeting and then everyone checking their phone for two hours. Sure there is a shared experience at the end of it, but there are a thousand things you could do instead in order to experience things together, most of which more interactive and more “social”.
For me the only benefit of going with a friend is pushing each other to actually go and see the movie. But for myself, I have watched movies alone and didn’t find it significantly better or worse than going with company.
For those of us without 100" 4K HDR TVs and perfect speaker setups, yes it is worth it. Not for every movie but there are movies I am very glad to have gone to the theater for because watching it at home on a 24 inch monitor and headphones is far less immersive and exciting an experience. Yes, even with popcorn crunching.
The only thing you’ll regret about going to a movie solo is not doing it sooner. It’s liberating.
only problem is there's still other people there.