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i am middle aged man, i experienced life since before even computer and smartphone is a thing like today.

back then, i feel that life is much easier, what i mean easier is more simple life, less competition, less stress, fresh environment, and more happiness despite lack of technology.

but right now, everything is just too complicated despite of power of tech, internet, smartphone, and AI helps, i feel that life is much harder right now, what i mean is like competition is everywhere, stressful everyday, crowded city, and i easily depressed these days.

is it just me or everyone else can relate to what happens right now?

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[–] peaceful_world_view@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Every time your life gets harder, some rich persons life gets easier. Welcome to capitalism.

[–] rbn@sopuli.xyz 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I'm not even sure if the average rich person's life is actually getting better by hoarding even more wealth. I tend to believe that being really rich is kind of an illness. Like an addiction where you never feel powerful or rich enough because there's always someone that's ahead of you. I feel that capitalism, especially in its current stage, is really bad for everyone.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes it is, we are being squeezed! We have less ways out. I'm far better than I ever was, actually have better health, and fitness. Yet, it is hopeless.

[–] shojivr@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i am suprised you still motivated enough to keep health and fitness in check despite of how bad things going on right now

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I mostly don't, my job forced me to be fit and lean. I at most hydrate, shower, and shave. I eat whatever garbage I can, and sleep in a dump.

My father revealed a secret. If he feels it is funny to just have secret income while letting me handle the debt, it's going to be less funny when I give my 2 weeks in October. Maybe I will survive, or maybe kill myself. Will see.

But I can't be sane with this kind of job, need to self-correct.

[–] shojivr@lemmy.zip 2 points 21 hours ago

so its forced, i hope all the best for you

[–] ComradePenguin@lemmy.ml 36 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Thirty-something Norwegian here. I am born into a rich, relatively functioning social democracy with a good welfare state. Buying my own home was a real struggle, even with a good salary. Many of my peers will never own, my younger friends will struggle to ever own, or never.

Unfortunately the welfare state is eroding, prices for everything is increasing heavily, and the private sector is a growing leech on the state.

[–] goferking0@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 2 days ago

the real problem is capitalism

May your welfare state never erode enough to remove your Healthcare and turn it into exclusively private!

[–] Snapz@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

They broke the social contract. The thing that a polite, cooperative society is built on. So now we see what that means as more everyday folk realize it over time.

It's definitely getting worse, you're not imagining it.

[–] Switorik@sh.itjust.works 114 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Bills went up, pay did not keep up.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 36 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This is true, but It's not just that. There is friction built into everything, designed to squeeze as much as possible out of us.

[–] Brimstone@lemmy.ml 13 points 3 days ago

Yeah companies used to pretend to please customers and now they don’t even pretend.

The staff are minimum wage and don’t care because it’s a big corporation so you can’t get good service.

The price is high because the shareholders must be kept happy so you pay over the OSA Odds.

Corners were cut in several places making the product to please the shareholders too and the workers manufacturing got minimum wage in the factory wherever it was located and have zero interest in making good products as a result.

Basically capitalism ate itself

[–] shojivr@lemmy.zip 29 points 3 days ago

here i am still unable to buy a house or car

Yeah, i mean we make more stuff than ever before per capita and all that, and yet we still have to fight harder and harder to survive. How so? We'll these fucking billionaires are also richer than ever before. Crassus' wealth is estimated at like $2B in today's dollars. Rockefeller is estimated at like $300-400B. Musk is more than double that. It's very clear what's happening, the rich use the capitalist surplus as a weapon to extract more wealth from the poor.

yeah it's intentional.

oligarchs are hoarding the resources and getting people to distract themselves by pointing at each other while they stockpile their bunkers.

[–] jama211@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You could post this exact question at literally any time in history and get a whole host of agreeing answers. That's a basic sanity test you should use to determine that this is a question incorrectly put.

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Same with how young people are lazy etc. etc. people never learn from history, it is just crazy.

[–] jama211@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

It's all I seem to see on forums these days, people complain about how the internet has gotten more depressing but don't stop to realise it's those same people posting stuff like this that makes it depressing.

[–] hexagonwin@lemmy.today 3 points 2 days ago

tbh a large part of it probably has to do with you getting older and looking back in the good old days in rose tinted glasses

some parts of the world got better now compared to few decades ago, while others have gotten much worse

[–] lemmylump@lemmy.world 74 points 3 days ago (9 children)

There's a whole lot of awful going on.

My dad used to rant about how government should be run like a business, no, no dad, it really, really should not. Businesses do not care about people, businesses don't want anything but money, your money, and they will twist, turn, manipulate, lobby, and flat out steal or harm people to get it.

So the next time you call 311, the non emergency police line, or God forbid 911 remember, your call is very important to us, a representative will be with you shortly. If you'd like to take a brief survey after the call just stay on the line. If you'd like to talk to our chat bot Sally just say, hey Sally!

[–] jtrek@startrek.website 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My dad used to rant about how government should be run like a business,

Anyone who sincerely believes that is too fucking ignorant and or stupid to be taken seriously. They're a hazard to themselves and their polity.

[–] lemmylump@lemmy.world 24 points 3 days ago (1 children)

He's dead so you can relax

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[–] thanksforreading@lemmy.ml 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

My dad used to rant about how government should be run like a business, no, no dad,

The last thing you hear: Sorry but your citizen contract has been revoked in order to meet our 3rd quarter profit target. You have been terminated!

"It was in the user agreement."

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[–] Lor@leminal.space 3 points 2 days ago

I think you are slow on the uptake. It has been this way for a while.

[–] Hikermick@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

I was born in the 60's and feel ya. Funny that there's a lot of people who never knew life before internet like we never knew life without television. My take on it is we are bombarded. We see everything that happens all over the planet as soon as it happens. Yet our ability to affect things is still the same. That I feel makes us feel small. Spend less time looking at screens

[–] VeldtSchema@lemmy.ml 17 points 3 days ago (2 children)

OP, it’s also going to sound like a cliche, but touch grass. The cancer-like tech companies want to replace your sense of community so that they have more power over you. F them, join a local group, and find yourself feeling more powerful when you have a real community behind you.

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[–] edgyspazkid@lemmy.wtf 4 points 2 days ago

Yeah it's sucks. I feel like everthing I do or will do need to be optimazed instead of done for sake of doing.

[–] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 48 points 3 days ago (1 children)

im putting groceries on credit. i had a great credit score till this year, i havent even tried making payments on certain things including ER bills. only a matter of time before im bankrupt, and i am also disabled. i have given up on having a future and I'm only 32.

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[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 days ago

Sounds like things have been good for you in the past. I am happy for you, and wish you a return to the good times.

They say happiness is all about expectations, but I haven't expected anything good and I am still disappointed.

[–] furrowsofar@beehaw.org 14 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (7 children)

Wealth divide is worse. We are also in a time of change geopolitically. Also in a time where powerful actors benefit from creating controversy including media, social medial, political, and geopolitical. We live in interesting times.

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No, you are not alone. I have the same feeling.

[–] AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It's really hard to tell what was just younger kids not being exposed to the world vs. things actually getting worse. I was a kid during '08, and things didn't really change for me at home cuz my family was always very frugal, especially my dad.

Climate change has empirically gotten worse tho. Inflation, enshitification, food quality, all of it SEEMS worse but it's hard to quantify it you know?

[–] horus_son_of_isis@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (6 children)

nah lil bro. The enshittification is real and huge. The quality of goods, particularly what used to be reputable brands, is 100% in the shitter. I have started only buying fabric with natural fibers in them because polyester sucks. Turns out that's a lot harder than it used to be. I've been a regular grocery shopper for the entirety of this century. Things were pretty much the same price for years and years. There was a bump in 08 to punish us for electing a half-black guy and demanding reasonable pay, but then it stabilized until around 2018. Shit has increased in price by multiples while quantity and quality have plummeted.

We're fucked bro. Get whatever enjoyment out of this life while you can. There are some unprecedented hard times coming. We're going to pay for the recklessness and irresponsibility of the boomers. Buy hey, they got theirs, didn't they?

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[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 15 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I think about it this way.

In 1995 I could leave the house with nothing in my pocket except $10.00 and have a great day. Ride the bus with cash, get food with cash, buy stuff with cash. If I needed a ride there were free phones to car services in most stores.

Today, if I go out the door I need cash, a credit card, and a phone.

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[–] gary_host_laptop@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 days ago

yes, join your local communist party

[–] geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml 12 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Life isn't that bad yet but owning things is starting to become impossible. You used to buy and own things now you are more and more only allowed to rent them. Be it movies, video games or your house.

[–] distal@lemmy.ml 12 points 3 days ago

Marx and Engels predicted that economies would become dominated by rentiers

[–] patt_phenis@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 days ago

Yes, but not in the imprecise terms you'll find tossed around in mainstream sources of information.

Key Lemmy-grade terms:

  1. Surveillance Capitalism ---> Technofeudalism
  2. Personalized pricing
  3. Bureaucratic Friction & sludge (customer service best practice)
  4. Administrative Burden (government, business adm & customer service)
  5. LexisNexis Risk Solutions, RealPage
  6. Rent-seeking behavior; economic rent
  7. Whiteness theory
[–] Today@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago

All of the things that were supposed to help us by making our lives easier really helped them and now our lives are harder. I don't see an end to that.

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