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That I should be afraid of going to prison for resisting imperialist repression.
OP, have you considered if you have ADHD? Having trouble handling multiple priorities and finding it difficult to break down tasks, as well as not enjoying the present, those sound like ADHD things. Potentially - could also just be a difficult time you're in.
My limiting belief is thinking that people will react negatively when I say no (plans, taking on more work, free samples even). Most of the time, they move on and forget about me. Their day isn't ruined because I failed to please them. So I'm trying to say no more often, and when saying no, trying not to explain myself unnecessarily.
Yep, diagnosed and take meds and everything. Just kind been in a weird time, I'm making a lot of good moves and progress lately but it took an astounding amount of wasted money and time and vacillating between enormous effort and just total extended shutdown.
What kind of trouble has that particular belief created for you irl? Like, did it kind of go on for a while where you weren't saying no when you needed or wanted to and how did that affect you? What was the last straw?
Relationships went on too long and decisions were taken I didn't agree with, because I didn't know how to say no. More than that, I didn't know or respect my own needs, having suppressed them to get along for so long. Took a mental breakdown to change things around.
Now I'm working on recognizing and respecting my own wants and needs. Not minimizing when I have a preference that isn't being respected. No more "oh I can tolerate this" - more "let's change this now".
Glad to hear it. The grass really is greener on that side
That everyone should live in a way that minimizes the harm done to others. In practice this means I am always compromising my needs for others.
Can you give an example of how this played out irl?
The big one is my career. I was an environmental geologist. I cleaned up petroleum contaminated sites. That's at least in theory. The reality was that all I did was help big oil corporations free themselves of legal liability and not really clean up anything. I couldn't do it anymore and now I work a service job that wastes my talents but doesn't make the world worse.
Is there any way you could provide expert witness services for environmental organizations or something like that? I'm sorry to hear that man, its so much easier to just be a shithead unfortunately. We'll all find out the fruits of that state of play quite soon anyway.
So much fucking around with too little finding out
In terms of maximising personal gain, that I shouldn't be shitty to others. If you don't care about anyone else, you can exploit, rob and manipulate
Though, I'm happy to have that belief, I'm not a psychopath
the false dichotomy of good vs evil
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