That's not just soft doms. My domme is a hard domme and sadist, she's just far more of the classic Mistress inclination. And by that I mean when she tells a sub to do something she wants it fucking done or to be given information that may change her instructions. She doesn't need an excuse like disobedience to hurt a sub lol.
omfg 👀
Yeah, turns out if you go to kink events you can wind up with kinky partners. Especially if you know what you want and aren't afraid to express it
Dealing with brats is easy.
Since physical correction doesn't work it's all about psychological.
The amount of times I've brought a brat down just by saying I'm disappointed
It's diabolical to remind me of my parents during sex.
Well, next time do as you're told
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That's brat abuse! Brat abuser over here! /s
yeaaa.... I wouldnt know how to deal with brats.
like - that behaviour isnt bad enough ti actually deserve any kind of punishment so... I'm kinda powerless. I'd almost just wanna stop kinda. But that is actually a worse punishment than what I had thought of earlier so... hmm...
I would kinda hope that.. handling them beforehand all tenderly and lovingly and stuff would not make them behave like that cuz u know... one would hope that they'd be shivery, where it just feels wrong to be bratty.
but if they are still like that, my god, what do I do? really?
It's best to think of it as giving an excuse for punishment. But it's also ok not to be into it. My domme doesn't like playing with brats
hmmm I mean yeaaaaaa butbutbut... idunno... if they want punishment... hmm... okay actually, no, u kinda... hmm... u made me think about this in a different way. one where its not them literally wanting to be annoying but one where they do it because they want those over-reactions, which yea makes sense.
so... I think I prefer the very soft kind of "gimme this plz" exchange instead of... well, me having to guess what they actually want. obviously one figures that out over time but hmm especially at the beginning just telling one another what one likes feels like a wonderful way to do this, cuz that can be dressed up really nicely and be a nice warm intimate moment.
hmm or not. who knows
That's all allowed. I'll also say, you're totally allowed to not be into kink or some aspect of kink and to choose not to do it. Explicit communication vanilla sex where both parties act as equals remains the default and totally ok. You can take stuff outside it in a pick and choose way as you want it
I often end up slipping into being somewhat bratty without even meaning to. I suspect that it's to do with the fact that although I do enjoy submission, actually reaching a headspace where I'm able to just let myself enjoy the experience can be tricky. A phrase that I've heard before that resonates with me is that in a scene, doms have control, and subs have the power. Well it's hard for me to exercise my power to relinquish control, because in regular life, I'm a fairly anxious person who doesn't like giving up control. To do so in a scene feels like transgressing my nature, in a way (and this is also why actually doing so in a scene can be so cathartic — I just need some extra coaxing to get to that point).
I'm also pretty bad with punishments, because I am very easy to upset. However, a useful word that I heard somewhere was "funishments" — basically just punishments that are actively enjoyable or wanted. So with my partner, we follow a protocol of "no actual punishments, only funishments" (to the extent that outside of the initial discussions we did on this topic, we just use the word punishment and understand that we're talking about funishments, because it's less immersion breaking)
Examples of funishments include:
- "Making" me go down on my partner for a while (something I'd do gladly anyway — if anything, getting the amount of dedicated focus on me that my partner typically gives me is difficult for me sometimes. )
- Restraining my hands (especially effective if it's framed like "if you can't be trusted to do what you're told...")
- If you're stronger than a bratty partner and don't usually just physical force against them and are mainly about psychological domination, then pinning them down can be a teasing reminder of "I could do this at any time, you know"
- Physical pain is also a thing I really like, in moderation. Even during fairly vanilla sex, the occasional sharp bite to my neck, nails raking across my skin, or a slap on the ass can feel really good. I have a pretty low pain threshold though, so these are things we've had to practice to calibrate our mutual understanding of how much pain is enjoyable both for me and my partner (my current partner struggles with actually dishing out pain, but practicing this and dishing it out as a funishment occasionally has helped them to feel more comfortable about it too — because like I said above, funishments are things that I would actively enjoy, just wrapped up in the rhetoric of punishment.
- Edging play can also be a good way to make a bratty sub regret their choices (in a fun way). This can be especially effective if the edging itself happens later in the scene than the brattiness did.
Sometimes with a bratty sub, it's about giving them what they are asking for. Like one time that's a highlight to me, my partner had given me a slaps on the face, on my right cheek. I pouted and said that now my left cheek was feeling neglected, and that they should give my left cheek a slap, for symmetry. The initial slap was near the upper range of what I find tolerable, so I felt a bit silly to let my bratty nature win and literally ask for more. Before I received the slap to my left cheek, I apparently flinched in a humorous way. The fact that my bravado had been challenged successfully was something that helped me get into a more submissive head space.
To put it another way, sometimes a bratty sub is playing stupid games and actively hoping to win stupid prizes. For me, the fact that not playing along leads to different treatment than I had straightforwardly submitted makes the submission feel more weighty. The key to bratty subs is understanding that they do actually want to submit — they just need a little extra help to get there
But also, it's fine if that isn't a dynamic you enjoy much, even after figuring out how to successfully pull it off. I mean, I wouldn't ever be compatible with a dom who was into intense pain play and degradation, even if I did train my pain tolerance. Domination and submission are so multifaceted that a big part of exploring in this space is just figuring out what aspects of that is we most enjoy. Different strokes for different folks.
I mean yeah, see it, I see the excitement in that but.. I try to be someone where its easy to submit kinda. where it feels natural and obvious to feel small and kinda just let go easily.
When someone is bratty, I just don't... Want to do these things. I wanna do it when they tell me they want to after I asked them to tell me. Or like - I'd make them happy naturally but I'd absolutely be unsure how to deal with someone whos not playing along. I'm like oh yea of course I'd like to pin you down and mmmh make u shiver and kiss you all over but... u know... I do it cuz I know they like it not because I want to punish them. that doesnt make sense to me...
I wanna be someone where playing along is rewarded... cuz thats what feels right.
There is this “just annoying as fuck” middle ground that you have to push through.
Really makes you respect teachers more
hmm no I wouldn't swear.
I saw the title and was excited. Opened picture and realized we are unfortunately not talking about sausages
Oh, we can talk about sausages. It’s a free world, embrace your brats with pride.
Brats are my favorite! Spicy little beasts make it all much more entertaining. And they can have all the punishments they want :3

mine's bigger.

I’m fairly sure that’s a charcuterie board. Hmmmm charcuterie…
Perfect for serving bratwurst. I mean, that's what we're talking about here, right?
Yes...bratwurst...as in...who's the worst brat?
I guess you could say I've had my ass served up like charcuterie
Needs some holes drilled
owie, my poor ass lol
Ooh that’s lovely! I’m no size queen though I’m about the finesse ;)
I can make ya sob with a hair band.
teeheehee! I'm sure you can 🤭
I can be a bit of a bratty switch, depending on the day, how obedient I am greatly depends on my mood and cycle lmao
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If that doesn’t sort them we can always escalate ;)

and beyond that, true little beasts get the ginger🫚 😈 I’ve only ever had to deploy that a couple times though.
Please elaborate on the ginger
It’s called figging, you carve a bit of fresh ginger into a plug and insert it into the anus. It causes intense burning but won’t cause any damage.
The longest I have seen a sub take this punishment is 10 minutes and she said it was the worst punishment she had received.
If they were really bad you do things to them that make them clench their butt while the ginger is in there.
You’ll never find a brat more charming and compliant than in the week after a figging 🤭
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I second this
Looks showy.
Yes in practice I’m going to use a tea towel 99% of the time and not the single tail whip, not only do the dimensions of my room make it almost impossible you can really hurt someone with that thing if you mess up. It’s used at performative scenes like at a local kink club :) makes ‘em drool though and the threat of it persists.
I used to have that exact same whip! I think a brat stole it.
I adoooooore brats. I love to spoil them to pieces <3
Ignore and don't engage.
If an answer is necessary, keep it emotionless and monosyllabic.
Just like being interrogated by the cops, then
Eh depends on softer doms
Hehehehehehe
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