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A greeting card with a note about how she helped you.

Material gifts will get used up and thrown out over time. But she'll collect notes and letters from her students over the years, and they will help remind her why she's teaching.

As a teacher, just a letter or card saying how they impacted you is enough.

A heartfelt, handwritten thank-you letter telling them they're a great teacher and how they positively impacted your life.

@fastandcurious don't give anyone perfume/cologne unless you know them well enough to know what they wear.

• A card that has something meaningful about their teaching written in it.

• Since she's early career, give written feedback to the school about what a great teacher she is.

I don't think you have to worry too much. A classic gift of a vibrator should probably get your point across and not get misinterpreted.

(Sorry, I had to, I know I'm dumb)

A fountain pen or a nice moleskin notebook with a note saying how her lessons will help you in your future life.

I think a perfume is too personal and might come out as a romantic gesture (and difficult to choose if you don't know what she likes anyway).

One thing I haven’t seen yet: if you can, loop your parent(s) in on this. They know the situation better than the Internet does, and if someone tries to turn the situation into something weird, they should have your back. And they’ve got some life experience to help you with your note.

Lmao at the perfume and chocolates. You somehow beelined to the most Valentines related gifts possible.

The suggestion for a letter or card saying how much they helped you is the best idea. If you don’t feel up to writing, then think about a professional gift, like a fancy pen or something to sit on their desk. Don’t spend a lot of money, that makes it weird. Less than $30.

I’m so glad we had this talk at this stage of your life before you gave your first boss a fine bottle of perfume and then had a bewildering conversation with HR, lol.

Unless you’re living in a horny anime I don’t think you have much to worry about with what they think. However, don’t give your teacher perfume—that’s insane and inappropriate for anyone outside of a romantic partner / close friend.

Write them a thank-you note and get them a Starbucks gift card.

As a teacher, I treasure all of the heart-felt notes and letters students have left me over the years. If you want to give something that shows them how important they are to you, write them a letter.

As a former teacher, I'd never consider something a student bought me as a romantic gift, that's just not a thing. Chocolates are nice, but echoing what someone else said, a nice card with a message is really special. I still have every thank you card my students ever gave me, and I once printed out an email a student sent me when they got their first job to keep. It just gives you fuzzy feelings to think you may have been helpful.

A thank you card and a gift certificate for food. Everybody needs food.

As another poster suggested: muffins and a nice card go a long way. Especially since few students show appreciation anyway. She’ll definitely appreciate the card and gesture more than any particular gift that you might include.

And definitely don’t do perfume. It’s difficult enough to shop for yourself, much less for others. Just don’t.

a pineapple. Can never be seen as romantic.

Red Swingline Stapler

Edible underwear

Gift certificate. That's something that can NEVER be mistaken for romance.

We had a wonderful English teacher in our college. And on the last day many students gave her some gifts. If I remember correctly, we gave a small bamboo plant that sits on a table, some squishy smiley balls aka stress balls, a custom printed tshirt, a book, and maybe a mug too.

Maybe find another student and gift something together.

A card with a well-written note would be the best. Take time thinking about the tiny things she did that meant a lot to you.

a genuine card and a gift card to a nice restaurant. or maybe a wine voucher

Fart in a jar, decorate it all pretty and shit.

so chocolates wouldn't necessarily be romantic unless they were... you know... romantic. Like. valentines heart boxes would be a no go. But something like a box of See's Assortment or Lindt's truffles, etc, are pretty impersonal.

A note and some trinket or candy or baked goods is probably the way to go. It doesn't have to be academic-related, for, he record. if you got to know her really well, and maybe she liked... I dunno... legos... a lego minifig key chain, as an example.

I'd just stay away from apples. Kinda cliche. And the perfume. Stay away from the perfume! that would be worse than the chocolates (not least because it's usually ridiculously expensive. Also incredibly hard to guess what kind of perfume some one might like.)

I'd also suggest that flowers are too easily misinterpreted, as well.

I teach younger ages but my favourite things are cards or artwork that the kids have made. I find the intention and effort behind them most rewarding.

Other than that I don’t mind a good gift card.

Hate chocolate and mugs, I have so much uneaten chocolate and so many mugs I don’t use. But I’m not a big chocolate person anyway, so my preference there may not match others.

If she’s still young like you said, she probably hasn’t gotten that many notes of appreciation so for sure add one along with whatever you give as the emotional support they provide gets you through shit days knowing that your sacrifice is valued.

Eh, muffins and a card would probably work lol.

How about just an email. Keep it profesh.

If you know something she's interested in, try giving her a related gift. For instance, one of my professors really loved Chess, and ran a chess club at my college. I got him a Arimaa board, which is a different game based off of chess.

As a teacher, I'd say a card as someone already suggested, or a book with a thank you inscription

Coffee or tea