Djfok43

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[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 2 points 22 minutes ago (1 children)

I guess my point was, I'm assuming you live in the US if you think there's a lot of good in people

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 23 minutes ago

Okay well that makes a lot more sense for someone that has to pay quarterly I guess. I guess this is a US thing. Luckily I never had to do my own taxes in Canada and looks like I'm never going to have to learn, but I'm interested in US accountingd

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 44 minutes ago

I don't know who we is but I certainly don't

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 45 minutes ago* (last edited 40 minutes ago)

I mean, he did occasionally say turd-like things but everyone has flaws. He also said he wishes I was prettier so he wouldn't have doubts about marrying me lol.

He meant it in the context of telling me I treated him worse than his friends do, and he said that after we got into an argument once. His friends are more like acquaintances and he has never had to live with them.

Honestly I wish I could remember wtf actually happened (apart him constantly trying to leave when there was an issue instead of trying to solve it). That was a common pattern. Like if I would ever communicate to him anything that "bugged" me, he would just be like "do you want me to leave I feel like I'm just making you unhappy" and I would be like "no I do not want you to leave are you insane" but then he would keep mentioning leaving or booking a flight back and eventually I was just like.. I think bro just wants to leave

We had to cohabitate temporarily, somewhat soon after first meeting in person, and I think the learning curve of me being his first gf plus that was just too much for him to handle

Either way it became exhausting after a while being the only person who wanted to make the relationship work

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 52 minutes ago

Thanks for the response. I could be totally wrong but I feel like the country where I'm currently living doesn't have anything for me in it and I don't think I will be happy here. On the other hand I don't know how much better it will be elsewhere. I just feel like the people here are generally awful, especially in the city I live where all the jobs are. I can't move cause of that, and also the pollution in other places is even worse, and if I go to some village it will only be old people there. So yeah life does seem quite limited.

My only solution is moving somewhere else but I'm worried it'll just be a waste of time and money and unnecessary stress, maybe I should just accept my fate here, idk.

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 58 minutes ago

It's uncertain what exactly, but something weird is definitely going on

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 58 minutes ago (1 children)

I thought he was no longer in charge of 4chan

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 58 minutes ago (2 children)

I don't get it, who are they getting ad revenue from? Thought it was just random people using their website to sell their stuff, why would they care about how "politically correct" the website is? They can just find literally anywhere else to advertise

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 59 minutes ago (1 children)

No, I don't think that has always been the case at all. When I was looking back at old post people would be completely shocked if someone would get banned from 4chan, because it would be very hard to get banned and you'd have to do something really bad. That's just not the case anymore. I've also heard of people paying for a pass and getting banned for bs reasons too.

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

I am not :/ I'm telling u guys this is definitely a recent thing. I don't exactly know what their motives are but it's kind of scary tbh

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

You're not wrong but it doesn't make it less devastating. I've been using it for years and not even gotten banned a single time. And now in the past few weeks this, and then I check the rules and it all makes sense. I always saw it as a fall back option when I wanted to talk to someone. It used to be reddit but I got banned for some complete bs, it used to be discord but they totally ruined it too... Then I thought I at least had 4chan but no longer

[–] Djfok43@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

no the website is just bots /s

 

The most notable of which being "The 4chan moderation team reserves the right to revoke access and remove content for any reason without notice."

I noticed something fishy starting a few weeks ago. I kept getting 3 day bans, but with no reason listed and/or no link to the offending post.

So basically I was being banned because the mods wanted to ban me. This turned into a permanent ban, I presume because of the updated rules that I wasn't aware of.

You are not allowed to DISCUSS anything that violates US law. I was banned for mentioning that I was worried my neighbours are abusing their kid.

Permanently banned from 4Chan for this. I tried to appeal it but it was rejected.

Always saw 4Chan as a freedom of speech platform but looks like things are changing very quickly.

 

To put a lot story short I'm stuck in Bulgaria for the foreseeable future for a multitude of (interesting) reasons.

To be 100% honest with you I greatly dislike it here, and want to go somewhere affordable-ish for about a week for vacation (probably in Europe).

Things I dislike here that I would like to avoid in the vacation destination:

  1. Insanely bad air pollution & cigarette smoking everywhere 24/7

  2. Lack of affordable/accessible good food

(Any ethnic cuisine I have tried tasted maybe at most 50% like how it should, even in very expensive restaurants. Supermarkets have extremely poor frozen food variety and the taste isn't good either. The food variety in general I find to be very poor. I just want a change because I think I am dying from nutrient and soul food deficiency)

  1. Extremely poor shopping experience

  2. Poor and inaccessible hiking

  3. Grumpiness of people/toxic behaviour

Honestly most of these factors would possibly be solved by going literally anywhere else with poor variety just for a change of pace.

Places I have been considering:

Poland (because they have good services) Portugal (affordable and good food?) Spain (high quality of living, outgoing people?) Albania (amazing nature) Czechia (more developed, so more variety) Estonia (kind of curious about a more affordable version of Scandinavia?)

I do like beaches but am hoping to go somewhere before summer hits full force because I don't tolerate extreme heat well. Sorry for the super long post, could really use some input

 

I'm in my late 20s now and I feel so much despair.

I think a huge factor that shaped my world is my breakup almost 3 years ago. I had dated several people, actually more than several, before then.

I feel like people think I am delusional when I say this, but he was genuinely the nicest person I've ever met in my life. I don't understand how it's possible for someone to have actually cared about me to the extent he did. At times I felt like he actually cared about me more than my own mom did. It wasn't just that, he was intelligent and hilarious too and we had a lot in common.

Unfortunately I wasn't good enough for him and he didn't want to continue the relationship. This basically fundamentally broke me.

I had my share of heartbreaks before, but even when I met him, I was basically at my breaking point with love. I remember telling myself this was my last try (because I was so done). To this day I literally have no idea how I could have so much in common with someone. It's like we completely agreed on almost every aspect in life. Did he just lie to me or agree with everything I said or something?

Apparently he has also had random acquaintances tell him he's a breath of fresh air and so nice to be around compared to most people, so it's not just me.

I really don't know what to do other than cry about losing him. I've tried so hard to find happiness for myself but how could I let something like that go?

My life hasn't gotten any better since then and I honestly think I am hopeless. Genuinely.

Literally everyone pales in comparison to what I had with him. Even though what I had clearly wasn't real, because ultimately he clearly didn't feel the same about me since he chose to leave. It felt real to me, talking to him is the most enjoyable thing I had experienced in my life.

This all sounds extremely sad and pathetic but really what am I supposed to do? I bet most people haven't even come close to meeting someone like him so they can't relate to this at all. I am going to sound insane again but I think he is some prodigy or something. Like one of those one in a million once in a lifetime people that most won't even get the chance to meet.

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