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Walk up to someone and compliment them.

• “I love your top!”
• “Your eye shadow is so good!”
• “Those shoes are so cute!”

If they respond enthusiastically (more than one word response, makes eye contact, smiles), ask them about it.

• “Where did you get that?”
• “What palette did you use?”
• “What brand are those?”

If they still answer enthusiastically, congrats, you’ve started a conversation. Keep it going.

Edit: It’s also entirely possible you approach someone who’s shy/nervous and their responses might not qualify as enthusiastic. Personally, I risk being annoying if I’m talking to someone who seems to be alone, quiet, or shy. Keeping the convo going a little long gives them a chance to warm up to you.

I guess it’s dumb to comment like that. Not gonna lie though, it’s wild to make a whole meme and comments dogging on it.

My first 3 relationships were with stalkers. I was super depressed and had no interest in a relationship. I figured the best way to get them to leave me alone was to give them what they wanted. The first one would track me down when I was out and corner me if she wanted me to do something, that lasted 3 months. The second used to follow me home from high school and would watch me when I was at a club. That lasted two weeks, but every now and then she’d hit me up for a hookup.

The third was the most traumatic experience of my life and I’ll just leave it there. A few months after our breakup, she asked me to fill in on her team for the schools Overwatch team tryouts. I didn’t want to join, but I played. A week later, they’re begging me to join the A team… in the position my ex was trying out for. That was definitely cathartic. 5000 hours of OW later, it’s a bit less funny. I never wanna play a video game that much again.

Also back in college I matched on Tinder with an older woman. She was like 26, I was 19. After a chat it turns out she was in a committed relationship and was looking for a third. Why not? I showed up a few times, they would get me dinner and then I’d do whatever they wanted essentially. After the fourth time, we stopped because the guy was too into me and the girl didnt like how things were developing.

I also kinda fell in love with a girl while I was on a grippy sock vacation. It didn’t last too long after we got out. She had issues and bad habits and pretty quickly succumbed to them and then started being really manipulative.

If this doesn’t make it obvious, I have some issues being a bit too… pliable. I’ve learned some lessons though and I’m in a pretty healthy relationship now and I can look back and laugh it this stuff.

First it seems like you’re pretty young and your parents don’t sound especially supportive of being trans. Survival comes first, so there’s no shame in waiting. DIY hrt is in my opinion very risky and I don’t blame the professionals recommending against it.

Personally I transitioned in my late 20s. I was “fine” with being a guy even though the moments where I explored my femininity immediately felt more fun. As for being dissatisfied with how you look and your fear of looking like a man in a dress, it’s more complicated yet also simpler than that. Do I pass? No. That said, being as feminine as I can be makes me much happier than I ever felt as a guy. There’s all kinds of work and effort you can put it in to look more feminine and I like to celebrate the small victories.

Take your time and explore your gender and who you are and who you want to be. If and when you’re ever considering making a move on that, don’t let perfect be the enemy of better. Even the most passing trans women I know still get dysphoria and have insecurities, it’s just how it is. You have to decide if that battle is worth how much better you feel when you’re being as close to the person you want be as you can.

I’d be more interested in a more loose relationship than “dating” with someone like that. I’m just not really interested in committing myself to someone whose life doesn’t allow them to prioritize the relationship. I’ve been in situations with people like that though and it’s been fine. It’s not like I don’t know how to live a life without someone.

When I lived up there, I only ever heard water-vil-ay

Yeah kinda. Establishment dems are neoliberals, an ideology popularized by Reagan.

In my experience in the US it’s interchangeable. Typically palm out is used to convey more cheerfully or for emphasis, while palm in is more casual or less emphatic.

There’s a stigma around bi people that bi men are actually just gay and bi women are just straight. A good chunk of women perceive a bi man to just be closeted gay and are turned off by it. I personally don’t think those women are worth worrying about, but they are out there and coming out as bi to a woman can just end your chances every now and then.

Inside the earths mantle, so I would die instantly. There’s a couple different TV shows that show that even the most confident and capable survivalists won’t last very long in the wild. Even if I had that hubris, I still wouldn’t want to be alone.

Self control mostly. I was taught to meditate by doing nothing but sitting, eyes closed, counting my breaths. It gave me a strong control over my thoughts. Now if I want to sleep, I lie down and turn my brain off. I’m out in a few minutes if it’s not too hot.

I have amnesia from a bad head injury as a teen. So I don’t actually know, but I’ve had it as long as I can remember. I’d love to lose it if it meant I could do bangs easily and hide my forehead. I’ve been toying with the idea of shaving it, but I’ve heard that can be a nightmare of its own.