Valhaitham

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[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Absolutely yes. There are parts of those religions that can be prejudiced and hurtful so I would challenge a friend that would fall into them. Of course, if no harm is being done I would be supportive, which is the new position I've taken from the advice here. I recognize there are also benefits from practicing an organized religion for a person that might need it.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It sounds like you may just not be knowledgeable about it, so it may help you (and your friendship) to take an open and academic view and educate yourself on the stuff your friend believes.

Absolutely! I know very little about it and expressed interesting in being educated on the topic. I have no problem with witchcraft in itself. I would not be against participating but I told him that it would be, of course, for leisure and entertainment. My issue was him taking this into delusion, which is why I told him it to talk to his therapist about this interest. This is where his biggest issue with my statements came from. He's been through a lot. He's currently transitioning from F to M and it's been putting him through a lot of stress right now too, so I don't want to him to bear more from what circumstance it may bring from the prejudice around this. Sadly enough, I think that's what I did with my initial reaction so I made a big mistake in handling this situation.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think you are mistaking my initial disdain with his decision to explore witchcraft. It isn't about believing in science, I don't think I mention science once in my post but I see how it can be mistaken since I mention I come from an academic background. I have no qualms with practicing witchcraft and actually would like to participate myself, all knowing that it is just for leisure and entertainment, and it isn't harmful. Similar to how playing a Ouija board might be. Others may believe there are actual beings controlling the position of the planchette, but we know that isn't true.

My initial issue was him using this newfound interest to fall into delusion and have more mental health issues by ignoring the reality around him. His biggest issue with my challenge of these beliefs came when I told him to talk to his therapist about this. I wasn't trying to force my beliefs on him because I don't have any beliefs regarding it, although that might've been what I did since a lack of belief is a belief itself. I've apologised and we're okay now, I hope. It does not seem like this is harmful so I'll be supportive of this, just as I've been supportive of his other personal troubles.

Neither of us are in our teens or early twenties.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

You are correct, although the tone of your reply doesn't sound very friendly but more condescending. That was his last reply to me because I didn't reply after, instead I sought advice here. No boundaries were crossed. I apologised and let him know I would be there if he wanted to share with me, we're on good terms.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This is what I did. I apologized for trying to impose by beliefs (or lack thereof) and showed interest in learning about it if he wanted to share. Thank you.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago

I'll look into this, thank you! For now I will be supportive as long as no harm is being done, as others have advised.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 18 points 1 year ago

Thank you for this perspective I hadn't considered. No harm is being done as far as I know, to himself or others. He does have a history of self harm but he's beyond that now, and is thankfully in a much better place emotionally.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is good advice, thank you. He is not a bigot at all, I only worry for his mental health but as a friend I can choose to be supportive if no harm is done.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 7 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I am starting to believe this is the best way forward. I care for N and his health, but this is ultimately out of my control.

 

I have this friend, N, that has recently started believing things very out of the ordinary. He said that he's been getting into paganism and studying runes and candles. I told him that was very interesting, it sounded like a fun time and a good hobby to have. N let me know that it wasn't just a hobby, but that it had a function and purpose, a sort of witchcraft.

I come from an academic background; it doesn't seem healthy to me to actually believe and try to practice witchcraft, not because it might be real, but because of the mental health associations with it. So I told my concerns to N but he brushed them off, saying that people have the right to believe in what they want. I respect that, but I do not want N to fall into delusion. I let him know, as respectful as I could, that believing in witchcraft does not make it real and that it wasn't healthy to believe otherwise. He got really bothered when I told him he should talk to his therapist about this stuff. N has a history of mental health issues and was in a deeply abusive relationship for a few years which cause him a lot of grief. I was accused of being rude and trying to impose my beliefs. His last message to me was him asking me to stop and that anyone has a right to believe what they want.

I cherish N a lot as a friend, I do not wish them any harm. I respect that anyone has a right to believe what they want, but I really don't think this is healthy for my friend. Is there any way I can help him? Is the best way forward to just stop and let him be?

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It appears there's some truth to this. Threads from Kbin after the Magazine started appearing in Lemmy are now showing up there correctly, if after a bit. Even one I posted a day before the Magazine was available there. However, there are still posts from Lemmy to the Magazine I moderate that are not showing in Kbin, I have no way of moderating them. This is creating issues since there are duplicate posts (it seems to be a bot reposting threads from Reddit).

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Thank you! I can see it now. Not sure what the problem was, I'll try this strategy now. Still, threads are not syncing up correctly.

[–] Valhaitham@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I did, the Magazine now shows up but posts aren't syncing completely. Yesterday, no posts were showing up over at lemmy.world. Today, there's a few, but there are also posts on the Mag from Lemmy that aren't here in Kbin. Not sure how to moderate those.

 

I mod a Magazine here in kbin.social, over the past couple of days I noticed that it wasn't available over on lemmy.world nor is it searchable from Mastodon. Today I noticed that the Magazine is now searchable from lemmy.world though none of the posts are synced. It's not available on Mastodon yet, nor is it at fedia.io. Manually searching for it for example as fedia.io/m/my_magazine@kbin.social yields a 404 error.

I've also tried of inputing the direct url to the mag at various Federated site internal search bars to no luck. Anything that can be done to improve Federation rate?

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