Okay, do you mind if drag tells them what to do instead?
So you're saying that OP could choose to identify as your significant other, and it would be entirely OP's decision with none of your input?
Drag thinks you've misunderstood the post. The post says you earn the title of ally through your actions. It doesn't say you earn it through someone else's actions. Your actions are your choices. Someone else calling you an ally isn't your action, it's theirs. So the post is not saying that queer people bestow the title on you, it's saying you bestow it on yourself. By doing good things.
Who do you self identify as an ally of? France? Bosnia? Laos? Do you have a treaty?
No, it's right. You can't form an alliance with somebody without their consent. If you want to be someone's ally, they're allowed to disagree.
Entering an alliance with someone requires their consent. You can't just declare you're allies with France, you have to go talk to a French diplomat first. If you don't, then you're free to help France, but France won't protect you from invaders. If you declare that you're allied with France without asking them, they might go tell the international community that you're a liar. That would be a reasonable thing for France to do.
Fortunately, being an ally to queer people is much easier than being an ally of France. Drag is sure you can manage it if you present a strong enough ambassadorial case.
Ask drag as many questions as you like. Drag will answer in good faith, and if you say something that makes drag uncomfortable, drag will be specific and explain why drag is uncomfortable.
Most other trans people aren't going to be patient with you, because you opened this conversation by assuming hostility from them. They'd rather answer the questions of someone who asks from a neutral or agreeable starting position. Drag will answer your questions anyway.
You get to choose if you're an ally through your actions. If you already do good things to help queer people, then this post has nothing to do with you. The only reason for you to be worried by this post is if you don't think you've done enough. Is that what's going on here?
That person wants you to tell them what to do. They're looking to you as a leader. Embrace the opportunity to make change by being a good leader who gives clear instructions.
You wear the pin if it helps your sister. If it helps your sister, you're an ally.
If the pin helps your sister, then you've earned the title of ally. Does it?
Drag was banned from !tenforward@lemmy.world a day ago. As you can see, no comments or posts were removed alongside the ban:
In fact, drag has never commented or posted in the community:
Drag has no history of transphobia and no history of trolling. And drag can unequivocably prove that drag was never transphobic or trollish on Ten Forward, because drag has never said anything there. This is a ban for literally, provably, nothing.
Might as well completely give up on the summary cards from now on
When you see someone being queerphobic, call them out. Tell them they're wrong. And if they waste time arguing with you, that's time they're too busy to attack a queer person to their face.