... I'm not reading every comment. My life doesn't revolve around Lemmy.
Also, while we're at it, you keep pointing out that I can't see patterns or see the post properly. I have major cognitive issues especially when it comes to long texts, so PLEASE keep shaming me intellectually, lmao. You're lucky, the mods might not ban you for ableism! /s
I don't live on Lemmy, and if I did and were concerned about problematic stuff I'd never recommend Lemmygrad, you ask one genuine question and people act like you're Satan.
Lemmy's not a huge site to my knowledge... if it's that bad people can either leave, make their own site, or apply to be an admin/moderator.
I'm addressing that OP seems to be telling LGBT people to leave Lemmy because someone called them a groomer and one of Mark Zuckerberg's bots didn't immediately put the transphobe in Lemmy jail.
And it looks like it was handled, no?
As a queer person that sees this shit all the time, I'm indifferent. People are shit, this isn't new.
Ban them, yes, but there's no such thing as a safe space lmao. People are always going to sneak their way in.
I'd rather develop a thick skin than constantly running away every time someone calls me a groomer (and I have been called one; I actually have someone who's weirdly obsessed with me and continuing to make passive aggressive digs at me on Facebook lol)
If I'm not in a good headspace, I just tell them to die and click the block button... very easy (and inb4 it's problematic to tell someone to die, do we really still care about the lives of bigots that try to drive people to suicide. Lmao)
I'm not necessarily hurt, just mildly annoyed - mostly because on my end, I've made it clear that my life doesn't revolve around Lemmy and even if it did, I'm not sure it's very common for people to read through an entire comments section or memorize who wrote what comment. So it's strange that that would even be some kind of argument.
Context is definitely important, but I feel like my points still stand - if it's really that bad, people should leave, and they don't need a post to tell them to leave if it is that bad. If they like Lemmy enough, they can work together on a new site, or apply for admin/moderator positions so that these things are taken care of.
Maybe it's just some weird pet peeve. Like... I get to decide if Lemmy's safe for me or not. I don't need someone else to tell me just because they had a bad experience (and I don't want to minimize that, because it is shitty, but again, this stuff sadly is EVERYWHERE).
I feel like it could've been better to say "Hey, it's been a topic of discussion lately, and the mods are shit. How do we want to proceed?" Instead it just feels self-centered and demanding. I don't like it. And that totally could be a "me" thing, I can be overly sensitive with tone.
(And as a bit of an aside, it may not be clear from how I type but I really do have cognitive issues - they're extra bad today for whatever reason and trying to word things has been a pain whether it seems that way or not. It's definitely a "processing only a few lines of text at a time" sort of day. No idea what's making things worse, but I hope it clears up sooner rather than later)