Lemmy reacts to a non-sexualized silly outfit pic in a totally normal way…
Previous posts in this series…
- incredible find: https://lemmy.cafe/post/10217719
- epic ratio: https://lemmy.cafe/post/9597634
- lemmy is a worse platform for women than reddit was: https://lemmy.cafe/post/4821164
Oh hey, I'm in this screenshot making an off-color comment. We can debate misogyny and such, probably won't be very productive.
The thing I find interesting in this: "Italians Do It Better" is an inherently sexual statement. Everyone knows that IT is sex and maybe some other reference with this style of bumper sticker meme. That's what makes it funny. So then, is it wrong to make a sexual joke about someone who is wearing a funny sexual statement? I don't think so.
If she were wearing a plain tee or some other logo, I wouldn't make a sexual joke. This feels like white knight silliness to me.
The IT is vague and open-ended, not inherently sexual. Its inherently ambiguous and people fill in the blank with whatever is being referenced. We really don't know what IT means to the person wearing it, but you chose to make it sexual.
I assumed IT in this post was referring to murdering CEOs.
I don’t know how to tell you this, but when people refer to “doing it” without any additional context, they’re talking about sex. The shirt is undeniably sexual.
The shirt doesn't say "doing it", it says "do it"
So apparently Nike is a sex thing now
This format of tagline has been around since like the 70s. The IT is inherently sexual. Usually something like, "Diamond Cutters Do It Harder."
It's a double entendre and isn't funny without the sexual subtext.
So, unless there was a convention to redifine this joke that I didn't hear about; yeah, it's sexual. Anything else is just trying to contort common social mores to fit an agenda.
If it was a big hairy guy wearing a shirt that said "Bears Do It Better" I would also expect sexual jokes.
I don't view it as being sexual. Too many people wear this corpo slogan as if it's just "proud to be X." It could be sexual, but unless I see other things that go with being overt, fun, sexual, joking, then I can't really make the conclusion.
I'm not saying everyone should think like that, just that plenty of people can see a woman wearing "Italians do it better" and not think sex.
And I'm far from being an ace. No idea why it doesn't sound like sex to me.
your attitude makes the places you go unbearable. do better.
You don't know me or the women and NBs I associate with. Thanks for playing.
Which one was yours? Looks like the mods agree it wasn't conducive to the environment they want.
Would you proudly tell the women and enbies in your life about the comment on a woman's body you left on the internet? And ultimately even if, in the context of a friendship, and the folks you associate with, this would be taken well, don't you think it's worth listening when people say you're being creepy and off putting?
I didn't comment about her body in that comment.
Anyhow, with caveats, I would totally make that comment in front of the right crowd. I've been to a lot of kink parties and drag shows. Cis-het peeps don't have a monopoly on catty coments.
If someone wears a shirt with a sexual statement on it, then others will make sexual statements about them.
I didn't even think about the Luigi/Italian thing until I read it in a comment. To me, that shirt said that she has sex better than people who aren't Italian.
I did make a deleted comment referring to her Botox or plastic surgery and that I considered it a red flag. I find uncanny valley plastic surgery profoundly unattractive. I don't remember exactly what I said. It was flippant and arguably objectification.
So, I misread the room and my joke was poorly received. I haven't read the rules for shitposting or whatever and would not be surprised if I violated a rule.
From my view, the shirt with a funny sexual statement invites other sexual statements. I think that anyone that denies that the slogan is a double entendre is naive at best. The level of outrage amusing.
What gross things to say.
Ah so when you replied to someone commenting on her body and face saying that you would "still" have sex with her after drinking, that was a comment on her deep and rich personality? Just because you didn't literally mention her body in it doesn't make the comment not about her body, and I think you know that.
Maybe a public forum with a person you don't know is not the right place to make those.
No one is impressed by "I have a black friend", stop using is as justification.
No one said they did, and if you want to get into the weeds of this, folks that are also subjugated under patriarchy share a kinship and an understanding of the contexts and ways 'catty' comments should be made. Maybe going to a couple drag shows doesn't give you the proper context to understand what justifies a 'catty' comment. Maybe a random internet commenter saying they "still would" doesn't come off as a clever fun sassy razzing all the drag queens do. Maybe instead it sounds like basement dweller saying "she's not hot like the chicks I jerk off to, but I guess I would still fuck her".
Wow, I am so proud of you for realizing how wildly disgusting this comment is before leaving it up for too long. I would suggest you grow as a person and have that realization when you think it, and guide yourself away from being a creep.
It doesn't. Stop.
“if i was at a kink party or drag show” ITS A SILLY MEME SUBCOMM NOT A BURLESQUE SHOW FUNK OFF 😭
call me insane, but i want to be able to click on a silly image of a niche micro celebrity i love for her persona doing an incredibly tame expression of her sexuality and not be subjected to 6+ comments about how you “totally would” and “boobs lol” comments. go repost to r/celebsnsfw or wherever and make those comments in that context if you absolutely can’t keep it in your pants.
thanks for your comment ❤️