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Emotions and conflict (aussie.zone)
submitted 3 days ago by minty@aussie.zone to c/autism@lemmy.world
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Hellooo!

I was wondering if anyone else experiences this.

During some sort of argument or really just discussing anything with emotion, my emotions become overwhelming. My voice start shaking, I cry and I am quickly unable to speak. Not great for relationships. This also causes me to go to great lengths to avoid conflict.

Is this a typical in autistic folk? Or is it unrelated? I am just looking to try and explain whats happening

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[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 1 points 1 day ago

This also happens to me, but I've noticed it's only a very specific combination of factors that triggers it.

  • It has to be a high stakes engagement. Something that matters deeply to me.
  • It has to be addressed now, no delaying or waiting until I calm down. Either because it's time critical or the other person refuses to let me disengage and follows me.
  • Talking is the only option. There's no other solution to this confrontation than words. I'm not good at words so this stresses me out.
  • The other person has all the power in this confrontation. If I do nothing, they "win" by default
  • The other person doesn't agree with me, and no matter what I say, it's not working.

So really it only happens for me when I'm backed into a corner and have to talk my way out. I get upset because it's actually an unwinnable war. Actually, typing this out makes me feel a bit better about it, because it's obvious there was never going to be a good outcome in those kinds of "discussions" anyway.