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Sallygirl is the original counterpart before it fell out of use in favor of a slur (s***y) because tomboy was ok but sallygirl was discouraged. Tomgirl is more like futch or girly tomboy. Femboy is a more recent coining that doesn't have a counterpart because we still have tomboy
Huh. Til. Thank you for sharing. I honestly have never heard of the phrase SallyGirl before.
Wikipedia gives Janegirl rather than Sallygirl, but they may be wrong. Yet I haven't met any of this words in real life. I find both cuter than s***y which come with so much other meanings...
Janegirl was still coined later using Tomgirl as a reference point. It's also a bit regional but all referencing Fun with Dick and Jane.
I'm a bit of an outsider, so sorry if this is not appropriate. But I feel like "tomboy" is the wrong one to map to the opposite gender, as femboy is more descriptive: easier to understand Before knowing the word. So rather than suggesting to change femboy to sallygirl (or similar), would changing tomboy to "mascgirl" be more appropriate? Feel free to change my mind
We're not even talking about changing anything. Just let people use the labels they feel fit them. I'm sharing the history I experienced pre-internet.
Tomboy and Sallygirl were coined together first and I read them in a yellowed readers digest type magazine in the upstairs bathroom at my grandparents house while I was small.
How dare you say I piss on the poor.
tysm for sharing