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[-] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 days ago

I have something to say about this...

  • spit or saliva does not count

    • Skill issue, saliva is my absolute favorite type of lube 😂 /s
      Please for the love of god, use lube people 🙏
      I recommend oil-based ones, they don't dry out as easily as water-based ones. I personally recommend coconut oil. Smells nice :3
      Don't use oil with latex condoms or silicone toys tho!
  • Absolutely go overboard with it. If it's almost enough lube, you need more lol. Especially if you're not very experienced. Never be afraid to reapply lube mid-round.
  • Go slow, don't force anything. Don't try to replicate porn.
  • Practice makes perfect! Plugs, smaller toys, training up to the size of your partner. Muscles need training and that's true in this context as well. Don't hurt yourself!
  • Try different angles and positions! It's fun :3
  • Treat your bottom well

    • Everyone should be doing this, always :3

Just to say definitely don’t use oil with any condoms, but it’s completely safe to use oil based lube with platinum cure silicone, glass and metal toys - but not with any other material. And don’t use silicone based lube with any silicone toys. If you’re not certain what it’s made of use water based lube, don’t want plastic chemicals leeching out up your butt. Or anywhere.

[-] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago

I have strong feelings about sex toy materials...

For anyone out there with PVC toys...fucking DON'T
Use anything else. Metal, glass, silicone...NEVER PVC. It's literally the worst material, ever. IIRC it's toxic, it's porous (bacteria hide in the tiny little pores), you can't even sanitize it properly, because it can't withstand high temperatures, so you can't boil it, sometimes it just straight up melts for no reason and it's not even that cheap! Get literally anything else!

Fuck PVC sex toys. Fuck the companies making them (I'm looking at you, Doc Johnson)

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