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That's true tho! The vibe of the position is (imho) one of the most important aspects. The vibe of the movements as well, you're totally right!
NSFW, very TMI
There's a massive difference in vibes in, for example, doggystyle and missionary.I'll use me and my bf as an example. What did you expect? 😆
Missionary it's almost romantic, face to face, kissing, slow and steady movements (sometimes), but with the option to really go for it and watch as I squirm underneath, blush, make sounds and smile back at him. Also, the vibes of the entire movement are more...rounded?? It's not simply backwards-forwards. And that affects the angle and which spots he hits.
Is gooood :3
Doggy tho...
That's just like honestly the best position, don't care what anyone thinks. It's almost like...idk, I guess I'd say primal mating? No human concepts like love, kissing or being face to face, no such things. The movements are, again, different. This one I feel is more backwards-forwards, but sometimes he tries a bit of up and down. It feels alright, but he can't be as rough as he usually is in that position, and I prefer the roughness lol. And as a bonus, he can grab onto me for stability (waist or hips work), which allows him to be even rougher with me. And indeed, there probably isn't a position allowing as much roughness as doggy, at least for us.
And just...idk, something about being on all fours and just taking it. Being unable to do much else, having someone hold you in place and completely ravish you. Being fucked so roughly that you're sore right after. Exposing your entire body, back, shoulders, butt and everything else to your partner. Letting him spank you, pull your hair and whisper into your ear. Fucking like two animals, not even humans anymore.
Fuuuuuck, that's what I'm into. Doggystyle is literally my love language lol
Yes, I wrote an essay on sex. Yes, I went places. No, I don't feel bad at all. Thanks for giving me the opportunity, kind stranger 😂
Enjoy 💜