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I'd so wear programming socks if I wasn't as hairy as I am
You make body hair sound like an obstacle...it's not :3
It causes dysphoria to see it on my body; it's an obstacle to me.
That is fair. I respect that.
Thank you. That being said, I will always celebrate the courage and self-determination of my trans sisters :3
I guess you are right, I'm just sad of how much hair is on my body
huh? I wear the programming socks when it is winter because I am lazy and no longer want to shave my legs
It's winter anyway, I recommend cotton pantyhose :D
Hair can be removed :)
But for how long? I'd need to shave my legs every 3 days if I wanted to be smooth
Same for my whole body. I even have hair on my fingers and toes, that's how much hair there is on my body :(
You can always do wax, which should last longer.
There is also laser hair removal.
True, I could try wax
For laser hair removal, isn't it pretty expensive? Also I heard that you can buy some to use yourself, but I also heard it's not safe?
the at home stuff is perfectly safe as long as you have a functioning brain. don't look at the big light and you won't burn out your retinas, shave before each use and you won't burn your hair.
It can be really hit or miss depending on your hair and skin color though, and it's not like proper laser where the follicles are gone forever. It's more like it kinda "locks in" your shave for longer, and if you stick with it you'll also notice you're smoother after each shave.
If you want the hair permanently gone though, so far the only solution I've found is laser, and yah it's incredibly expensive. Just doing my face was like $2000 and that was with heavy discounts. A lot of places will let you finance it so you can pay monthly instead, but then you're stuck paying monthly...
Do you have one of the at home you would recommend?
And it works better with darker hair and lighter skin, right?
yeah darker hair and light skin. I use the nood flasher 2.0, but idk if there's any real differences between ipl devices. I just managed to find it on a steep discount during some holiday season.
Thanks for the advices :3
Yeah, it's definitely more pricey, but IIRC it lasts a bit longer than pretty much everything.
Not sure. I'd definitely trust a professional over doing it myself though, at least until I did a fuck load of research for how to do it.
As long as you are comfortable, personally stubbly legs are way better than forest so once every 2 weeks is fine for me. YMMV
Avatar checks out, bobcats are indeed quite hairy, Bubs.