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Female approached by man
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this post was submitted on 14 Oct 2026
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Fuck Politeness
Very good excerpt! I'll say I want to be gentle with men in these situations for my own safety as well.... don't want to be antagonistic....I agree with you though!
As a dude I feel if I wanted to just be nice to you when I sat down if next to you, I'd have said 'hey how are you?" Waited for your reply and been like "that's nice." And just got lost in my phone.
Mentally challenged or not "I haven't seen you before..." just doesn't sound casual to me as a dude. It sounds like a slick "Hey baby, you look good." But with make up on it.
Agreed do what makes you feel safe, but that is kind of you to even consider he might not be all Mentally correct.
Oh absolutely! Gotta do what makes you feel most safe in a situation and fawning (being nice until you can get away) is a valid way to deal with them. But don't worry about hurting their feelings either way.
I think it's important to separate "polite" courses of action from a polite manner of choosing a course. You shouldn't feel the need to join a conversation you don't want to just to be polite, but you should be polite in your rejection (as OP was).
Women don’t have to be polite in their rejection especially when they are feeling uncomfortable.
Fuck Politeness is about putting one’s own safety above other people’s feelings.
Nobody has to be polite. It is simply good to do as long as it does not negatively impact safety.