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It's a good trick for sure, but I think the greatest trick was convincing young men that women were the ones taking away their opportunities rather than old men.
My female boss told me "I don't trust men with the money, that's why I don't promote them to shift manager" how is that an old man's fault?
Probably saw all the dumb shit Bezos and Musk do and drew a conclusion on men from that. Simple as.
And when you judge an entire group by the actions of its worst, most infamous members, we call that...?
What was the intention behind this comment? It's construction seems to guide the reader to the idea that is a reasonable deduction. It even uses two disliked figures as an anchorpoint, as if examples of financially-obese men validate the opinion.
So are you just saying "this [anecdotal] woman's bigotry is actually logical"?
If it was simply a joke, then I think it just leaves a lot to be desired. Like the entirety of a joke. But that's the only other option that doesn't just read as endorsing misandry.
I was bored, wanted to see if I could come up with a half-reasonable explanation for her statement, and that was the first thing that came to mind. Sorry if it caused you any annoyance, Mr. Data.
There is no reasonable explanation. It would rightly be seen as misogynistic if you flipped it round using female examples.
Hey, I'm not gonna flame you for a bad joke. Everyone makes jokes that don't land how they expected.
But some joke topics are like hair-trigger explosives and can't be handled carelessly. Although this was more like a cherry bomb.