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this post was submitted on 06 Nov 2026
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I see what you mean, and hope my reply didn't come off wrong. I was just saying it's very difficult to broach this conversation with cis people without statements being misinterpreted and feelings being hurt, and was trying to steelman both sides of the issue.
Back when I was on Reddit, I remember seeing exactly the types of posts you're talking about, and then the dumpster fire that would ensue in the comments. And this would finally culminate in a another suspiciously timed post titled something like "It's okay to not be attracted to trans people" that would get hundreds or even thousands of bipartisan upvotes, along with a lot of trans-bashing, insinuations of trans people being pushy and predatory, people posting memes that they're sorting by controversial, all with the original context long forgotten by the discourse it grew into.
I'm so happy not to be on Reddit anymore. Like many things, I don't think this kind of discussion really lends itself very well to social media in our current climate.
Yeah no you're good I didn't take your reply in a bad way don't worry, I was 100% just continuing to vent haha. And yeah it was a reddit post lmao (I basically only use redlib to read a couple of the trans communities and there was a different post in one of them venting about it that made me see it in the first place). It is definitely something where going outside of actual trans spaces and reading discussions about trans issues, even in "trans inclusive" ones, really sucks I think, I try not to do it often but it's hard to resist sometimes even when I know it will just make me feel bad lol.