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Oh, that's generally the case with me as well. My problem is that I've become cynical and now see it as a waste of time, because I know in the end nothing will change. I've been to countless such meetups over the years and I'm tired of setting up false expectations each time. I'm tired of investing so much time into nothing, tired of trying to force myself to fit in and being who I'm not.
Do it because you enjoy it, not because you have expectations of what should happen after. Nothing has to change from you investing the time, just go to have a good time on the day.
Definitely. If any long term relationships come out of you meeting people, that should almost be treated like the exception (I feel thats actually rarer than people generally think - especially as we get out of school etc), not the expectation