"Do you think about self harm?"
"Just the normal amount "
"The normal amount is zero."
"Oh..."
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"Do you think about self harm?"
"Just the normal amount "
"The normal amount is zero."
"Oh..."
At 70 i thought ... "Hey! I may last till 80!"
At 71 i, i think "oh hell i may have to last till I'm 80"
' "Uncontrollable" feelings of anxiety or depression' isn't normal.
Everyone has had anxiety and/or been depressed before. It's when it doesn't go away shortly after feeling it that it is a real problem.
My doctor told me the best way to heal my back was to take a few weeks off work. She didn't understand why I was laughing my ass off, till I reminded her that most people don't get paid time off. Doctors kinda live on the moon in terms of what the rest of us can get
Move to a developed country and find out that most people get paid leave.
most people don’t get paid time off
WTF really? I know workers get fucked really bad in the US, but do most people not get time off at all?
Some places combine sick time and vacation into “PTO”, others the accrual is so pitiful you’re lucky if you get a week’s worth of time off in a year.
My fiancé’s place of work is both of these things. She got really sick in August and burned through her PTO in a week, then had to go to work despite still being sick
You seriously haven’t heard us complaining? Most people get something but a few weeks is unheard of. I think most people I know who even get pto have a little over a week/year between personal and sick days
I'm not even American, I'm Canadian. Things are a shit show here too. I didn't get PTO, vacation pay or sick days until I joined a union. So this was before then. I remember my second job was working part time at a hospital for a while, which are run by the government, and I still had no PTO or any sort of protection or benefits.
I knew that there wasn't any nationally mandated PTO, but I assumed that most of you had some in your contracts individually or union...FFS America, what are you doing!!!
In NZ we get 4 weeks/year and 10 days sick leave. Most companies have allowance for a couple of mental health days also, some even pay those days.
There is also bereavement leave, of up to 3 days. Parental leave of 26 weeks, your employer has to keep your job open for you to return to after the 26 weeks.
Side note: we are full, don't come here. Actually we get left off maps, and we like it like that.
Yeah, I actually am not sure what folks are talking about. Even in the most soul crushing places I've worked, the bosses still (reluctantly) give PTO. I've worked all over the USA from retail to military to Mom n pop shop etc, PTO has never been "do I get PTO?" It's "how much PTO do I get?"
Oh you sweet sweet summer child. Here in the US we traded unions and labor protection for an extra $20 a week and rugged individualism.
Yeah but without the extra money
In Europe I don't think sick days even have a limit, at some point you need to actually prove you are sick and are not just saying it, but as long as you have a doctor sign off on it you can be sick as much as you like.
Often used when people have long-term illnesses or injuries that take a long time to recover from
Those sick days are totally separate from holiday pay. So I can be off for 2 weeks with an infection (with a doctor's note) and then take a week holiday, and they can't say boo.
I have a corporate job with a very large company. Interact with CTO and other executives occasionally.
If I take off, I don't get paid. And they can fire me whenever.
And the state they operate out of doesn't have unemployment money left to pay when that happens so you better have money in the bank.
At least I have basic health care I can't use that I pay $300 a month for.
I used to do IT for a hospital and the doctors were the most coddled mfers I've ever dealt with in my life. I would regularly get calls in the middle of the night or the weekend to fix one of their dictation software. Like... Just type, ffs.
While working at the hospital I met many a young doctor. Extremely smart when it comes to their field, but they seem to lack the most basic common sense about something as easy as rebooting a computer. They're also messier than my 13 year old kid. Their private offices always look like messy dorm rooms
As someone who currently works in Healthcare IT, the dictation thing is so true ... It's literally the end of the world to them if they can't dictate, and have to use their fingers and - gasp, a keyboard! The horror!
The doctor likely has a private practice, so without the heinous pressure of working in a hospital and all the money that comes from being part of the medical industrial complex, its no wonder the doctor isn't depressed.
Contrary what you may perceive on the internet, most people aren't depressed, not just doctors with their private practices.
Well, they probably never bother to reflect on their own actions, nor the backdrop dumpster-fire we call society. That, with the rapidly approaching line-of-no-return heating of ocean water is enough to realize Humanity is a pox upon the Earth, and yet somehow we are supposed to reconcile these feelings and our very existence and desire for personal fulfillment in the face of overwhelming evidence that we are mostly powerless in the grand scheme of things.
So yeah, stupid people and narcissists are generally happier.
I won't pretend that it's easy, but people can be in a decent state of mind while acknowledging these issues. That's how most people live. You don't need to be stupid or evil to be happier. Being stupid and/or narcissistic bring their own problems too, so that's not necessarily a recipe for happiness.
Noooo people can't be happy! Unless they are stupid.
And dwelling on those things helps you... how?
Because most people have more immediate and direct issues to tackle in their life than being philosophical about society at large. We can't all be Diogenes.
You need a certain level of comfort and safety to be able to start worrying about shit like that.
If you don’t have some anxiety, I’m pretty sure you’re dead inside.
I'm dead inside, when is the anxiety supposed to stop?
That's your problem, you went dead inside because of the anxiety. You should have died inside first.
Jokes aside, I hope you are going to get better!
Anxiety is like anger, everyone experiences anger and statistics say the average person gets angry 6+ times a day, but for some people that's killing them, and for others is manageable. Having anxiety, like when you're playing a video game, isn't the problem, it's managing it, and reducing it, if you have a panic disorder, you're getting high leaves of anxiety in situations you shouldn't be having any anxiety.
"oh doc, liar liar pants on fire"
He's the one they call Dr. Gaslight He's the one that makes ya feel uptight
Depression and feeling sad over sad things aren't the same thing. A lot of people who experience depression may not realize that their feelings go beyond just feeling blue sometimes. Really sounds like the doctor is right to raise this as a potential issue.