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Cissy here!
Im fortunate to have both worked in a trans/queer therapy place and have a trans child. As such I've learned about gender and man did it open up my mind to new possibilities. I feel more complete now that I have a better understanding of myself. I'm masculine, but it certainly fluctuates towards femininity sometimes depending on my mood. Life is complicated, and the more we know about ourselves the better off we are!
Where do I get this sticker and can I buy them in bulk? I want to randomly stick them to everything I see.
I think most cis people don’t understand their own gender that well. If you’re trans you’re kind of forced to do research about gender to find a sense of your identity. Through this research you learn a lot about what gender entails.
I don’t think a lot of cis people can even explain how they know they’re cis lol
I suppose I know cause I'm apathetic to how society perceives me gender wise.
That could mean a lot of things. Many people who say that don’t really know what gender entails and thus don’t notice in what ways gender impacts their life. I used to say it before I realised I am trans. It could also mean that you’re agender.
Most cis people do understand their gender identity, I think.
The "they feel they were born in the right body" part is waaaay off, though. I was born in the cheapest body they could find in the back that would still technically run for a few decades. It wasn't "right" as much as briefly available and technically alive enough for the doctors to let my parents take it home with them. There are entire pieces that don't run at all, others are way out of spec, none of them look good. It's a mess in here.
as a cishet dude I also had the privilege to not worry about it that much. toxic masculinity can suck but if your family doesn't get weird about it you can just live without your gender really occupying much of your brain. I learned what I learned way later in life because it became an issue politically.
But in my personal life irl and online I have the privilege to afford to not care if I'm misgendered. weird thinking about how easily I could've been a wreck if I felt I was in the wrong body though.
you might get comments and whatnot but people get bullied for all kinds of things anyway. this is why I'm ultimately a gender abolitionist I guess, people gendering everything (toys, activities, clothes) never made sense to me.
I think the whole concept is pointless ultimately, but of course as long as we live in a gendered society I believe in people's right to be and express theirs however they like. trans rights are human rights.
Many trans people are gender abolitionists. The best way to abolish gender is to not adhere by the rules. All trans people break the rule that gender is decided at birth. Trans people fight for the freedom of choosing their own body, their own expression and their own sexuality. I my opinion that is the most gender abolitionist stance one could have.
I kinda wonder sometimes how many cis people actually are cis and just haven't had a reason to confront it. Like, I thought I was for a long time so it's not unreasonable to me that there are probably a lot more trans people than any of us think, they just don't ever discover it 🤔
There are probably many people who live a cis life who would live a different life if they were completely free in choosing their gender and expression. There’s many barriers currently that prevent people from realising and/or accepting the fact that they’re trans.
I largely agree with you, however i think the more accurate thing is that no one is truly cis, no one is truly any label. We just have a tendency to force everything in the world into discrete categories, which is very annoying.
Even "biological sex" is a mess and not binary at all, so i see no real reason for the concepts of gender and sexuality to exist. All it does is limit people from being able to explore themselves and their preferences.
A comparison can be made to how no one cares what your diet is unless they're going to serve you food, why should anyone but those near a person care how they identify? Why should we have categories for sexual attraction anywhere other than on pornhub?
They are AMONG US 📮📮
SUSgender
Uhoh. I’ve been caught 👮🚓