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Lost my boy today (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by darkdemize@sh.itjust.works to c/cat@lemmy.world
 

I'm heartbroken. We found out he was FIV positive shortly after we got him, but that doesn't make the loss any easier. He was only 1.5 years old. Hold your cats close for me tonight.

Edit: I fell asleep, so I'm sorry that I didn't respond to everyone. I'm very thankful to everyone for the kind words and support.

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[–] kaosof@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

We lost our sphynx very dramatically two weeks ago, and he was only 10 years old with no prior health issues, so I know how it feels.

You're not alone.

Me and my partner are still devastated and find ourselves sobbing uncontrollably every day.

It was like losing a child.

Life is on auto pilot these days.

I hope I'll see a good day again.

=[

My girl is getting older, pushing 9, and I dread it everytime I think of her not being there.

He looked like a good boy. Sorry.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 46 points 2 days ago (5 children)

I'm right there with you. Today I held my 16yo dog for the last time. 😭

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 26 points 2 days ago

I'm so sorry. I hope he went peacefully, knowing he was loved.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 17 points 2 days ago

I'm so sorry to you both. Losing friends is incredibly hard!

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago

Condolences on your pup 💔😞 hug your pillow extra tight tonight

[–] iamanurd@midwest.social 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Sorry to both you of you. 😢

[–] Mog_fanatic@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That's so sad but 16 years is a hell of a run! Lots of memories in there for sure.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

And she wasn't slowing down at all until this weekend. She just shut down.

[–] some_designer_dude@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago

So sorry ☹️ Adopted and cared for even after such a diagnosis. He was lucky to have had you.

[–] Botzo@lemmy.world 32 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Here's our gray cat making our pup feel trapped.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Thank you. I see a lot of similarities between your cat and ours. I hope you have many* more years with yours.

[–] frigidaphelion@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

Im so sorry to hear that. I lost a cat to FIV in the past as well.

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 23 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I’m so sorry! My first cat had FCOV/FIV just as Covid happened in early 2020. His death really affected me but taught me a lot. I hugged him until the end. I know your pain.

Thanks for the reminder of impermanence and cherishing our family and pet family! I struggle with imagining my current pets’ future deaths.

I’ll add he is super cute! I can tell he was a very good boy :)

Since I saw someone else shared a cute photo I will too:

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thank you! I'm missing him so much right now. He should be in my lap, and he's not 😭

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

As I believe with my cat, both we and they are lucky to have chosen us to go through this disease. He got a loving home. He must have felt very safe to sit with you such. And you got to take care of a special animal in need of love and care.

I’m so sorry! That is such a sad feeling.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 12 points 2 days ago

Thank you so much ❤️

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 17 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I lost my 20-year-old best girl in October and still feel the hole in my heart so strongly, even though I adopted a sweet new kitty two months ago.

As someone else here on Lemmy said to me: may his sunspot never move and may he rest in play. <3

[–] nicky7@lemmy.ml 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I lost my 19 yo 10 months ago. I think about him every day. I'm still heart broken.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I tell everyone that it’s both, “I had her for TWENTY years!” with excitement and joy for how long I had her in my life, and how lucky I was to have her such a long time. AND, “I had her for twenty years,” so I don’t even remember who I was before her; she was so much of my life and it is so much harder to live without her now.

I’m sorry you’re also dealing with this kind of pain. It sucks. <3

[–] nicky7@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago

Ditto!! <3 He was my best friend. He was so special. He tried telling us of our miscarriage before we knew. He knew when his adopted brother was going to die. He got me through a lot of past trauma. He was invincible; it was his name (Muteki, invincible in Japanese). But he couldn't beat his failing kidneys. We buried him in our back yard. I still bring him pistachios to play with; they were his absolute favorite "toy".

Thank you for responding and may the memories of yours live forever.

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I'm happy for you two and the time you had.

Next year it will be 20 years since I lost my best boyo, but he is still in my daily thoughts, in the weight-memory on my lap & chest, and he visits me in my dreams from time to time.

His face is the only face I can actually ever recall at will.

The inevitably failing memory over time is ... there, eventually it will win.

[–] OwlPaste@lemmy.world 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sorry to hear about your boy, however short is our time with them, we do our best to make their life enjoyable and while it is painful, they do love us back. So remeber and cherish of all the good times you two had.

My about 8 year old girl (had her for 4), got diagnosed with an aggressive cancer last week. Nothing we can do but let her enjoy all the luxuries of her short remaining life. I am sure she knows she is cherished and had her best life with us.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 15 points 2 days ago

I'm sorry to hear. Do what you can for her, and try to make her remaining time with you memorable and comfortable.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 8 points 2 days ago

Very sorry to hear this. I'm sure you gave him a wonderful life for the time he had with you.

[–] enshu@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

Sorry to hear that:(

[–] JulieLemming@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

He is in a better place, hunting and cuddling in purrhalla

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Beautiful boy. He was lucky to have known true love and have a forever home in you ❤️

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 15 points 2 days ago

Thank you so much for the kind words. They are truly appreciated.

[–] whostosay@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

What a hamsum boy.

Oh man, big ol cat hug squeezy incoming for my lil guy

I hope you're able to transition through the grieving process well, friend. It's never a bad moment to stop and take a real deep breath and feel the pain, it's going to come regardless and it's always better to accept it in these situations.

[–] YoiksAndAway@lemmy.zip 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. I'll give Bella some extra blankie time this evening.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 15 points 2 days ago

Thank you. Please give her a hug on behalf of this random Lemming.

[–] timewarp@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I have a gray cat that looks a lot like him. He's my everything. He is so sweet, wants cuddles & purrs so loud. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 21 points 2 days ago

Thank you. He was so loving. Here's a picture of him sitting in my lap.

[–] SouthEndSunset@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

I’m sorry you lost your boy.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 2 points 1 day ago

I'm so sorry for your loss :'(

[–] banazir@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 days ago

Gone too soon. So sorry for you loss.

[–] DogPeePoo@lemm.ee 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sorry for your loss. Rest in peace beautiful boy. 💕

To the downvoters of this post, I hope you get a really bad hangnail.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago

Thank you for the kind words. They mean a lot.

[–] putitoutwithyourbootsted@piefed.social 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sorry for your loss. Hopefully you can find peace in the fact he crossed the rainbow bridge knowing he was loved. Take care ❤️

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 days ago
[–] kindenough@kbin.earth 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This is aweful. My condolences.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thank you. I'm lost at the moment.

[–] kindenough@kbin.earth 10 points 2 days ago

I understand, there is nothing worse then losing a part of your family.

[–] vividkitten@lemm.ee 7 points 2 days ago

I'm so sorry 😭 he was such a pretty baby. I'm sure he had an amazing life with you 🫂🫂

[–] ChaosCoati@midwest.social 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thinking of you and sending comfort.

[–] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago
[–] maplebar@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I'm sorry. He's beautiful and looks so nice. It's such a hard thing.