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WomensStuff weekend positivity....What's one boundary you've learned to set? (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 4 points 4 days ago

Saying no to my family. Not every time because they're not usually unreasonable requests. But it felt like I wasn't allowed to say no or suggest a different time frame because they got annoyed. But then I realized, if they couldn't help me they said no so why can't I?

Now everything is much more balanced between us. I still enjoy helping them out but, only if I have the time and emotional availability. And they still help me out. It was hard as first but, it's made our relationship much better.

[–] Newhere@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 days ago

I thought I have set boundaries in relationship, but when I got into the relationship, I see that I am not standing for my believes that strong... That is upsetting me a bit.

[–] Beth@piefed.social 3 points 4 days ago

I won’t let anyone cause me any hassle in my life. I have zero tolerance.

[–] EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app 9 points 6 days ago

Something I kept promising I'll do but making very little progress on... No more engaging in endless internet debates that aren't going anywhere!

[–] dkppunk@piefed.social 6 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I separate my work time from my personal time. It doesn’t matter what job it is, my personal time is my time. My laptop gets shut down and put away, any work items on my desk get put away. I don’t answer calls from colleagues during my time.

The only exception is in extreme cases like when I had to make last minute flight changes for 2 employees who would have been stuck because of a nasty storm. All I asked was that they text me when they landed at home safely. They did and I went about the rest of my weekend.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 5 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

This right here.

I stopped doing anything work-related (yes, this included "mandatory" extracurricular activities like "team-building" back when that was all the craze) outside of working hours unless paid at the usual overtime rates: time and a half for overtime, double time for weekends, double time and a half for holidays. I started this ban in the early '90s and stuck to it until now.

If this "limited" my career somehow, well, if working for free and ruining my actual life is "limiting", I think I prefer being limited.

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 2 points 4 days ago

Oh yes this! I used to let jobs run my life.