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Bedding Ceremony rule
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Well don't be shy...share the source for those of us down super bad :3
It's not a wedding without a bedding!
Did this really happen? Or is it just a myth?
I mean you all often slept In the same room, so you'd hear and see people fuck all the time. I doubt medieval people were as ridiculously prudish as us so it wouldn't be that suprising if it was true (at least sometimes)
Also highly doubt their sex was the same as ours in prudish christian married circles. After all, anything other than missionary for the purpose of conception was punishable by eternal damnation (which, technically, is still the case but whatever)
Because this is the internet, i obviously believe this is asinine and if god is real i wouldnt worship that hypocrite
After all, anything other than missionary for the purpose of conception was punishable by eternal damnation
I bet that this has never once in history been successfully enforced. The Catholic church might have said it, but it doesn't mean that even most people followed it.
Our conception of the European Medieval period is distorted because the Church and the aristocracy were the people who kept the most written records, but there were many people, especially peasants, erased from history because they were pretty irreverent about the Church.
i'm fairly convinced that if you were teleported to a random farming community anywhere and anywhen on earth, they'd be concerned but default to housing you for like a week at least and by the time you establish basic communication your fate will be consigned to storytelling until the day you die.
Because life back then was fucking boring as shit and any modern person could probably make the best storytellers of the day suicidal by ineptly explaining the plot of the first movie that comes to mind.
Sing some Queen or whatever and the village will go
There were already established oral storytellers and musicians.
uh, yes, obviously? what's your point?
According to Wikipedia:
The purpose of the ritual was to establish the consummation of the marriage, either by actually witnessing the couple's first sexual intercourse, or far more often symbolically, by leaving before consummation. It symbolized the community's involvement in the marriage.
So in western Europe at least, people weren't directly watching
even more "Did this really happen?" ☞ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Droit_du_seigneur
kinda hot tbh. Linda and Bob from next door, y'all like this cake?
Porn before the camera was invented.
this post was submitted on 23 Oct 2026
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