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Inspired by another timeline I saw: My timeline so far (jun2021-literally right now) (lemmy.nz)
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It's been a wild few years. I came out as nonbinary in 2021 to my then wife, almost 5 years later to the day I realized I'm a girl. I'd spent quite a bit of time believing I'd never be a 'real girl', for some reason, idk probably internalized transphobia from my youth (yay growing up in friggin ohio). Today, I am happy where my transition has progressed. I feel good, happier than I've ever been in my body. I feel congruous with my personality, rather than like I'm trying to be someone I'm not.

The other day, I realized I was trying sooooo hard to "be myself" that I was playing up every aspect of my personality into this unbelievable caricature of myself. Today, I'm just a girl.

I should do clown makeup again, february 2024 was fun.

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[-] hperrin@lemmy.ca 2 points 20 hours ago

Ngl, Feb 24 is my fav. You look so fucking cool. I want to be your friend.

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 2 points 17 hours ago

Always accepting new pen pals!

[-] neo2478@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago

Wow! That May 24 makeup was fire btw!

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 4 points 23 hours ago

haha that look was for a metal show in Central New Mexico! I used to go every Friday night back then. Sometimes I still do my makeup like that but it's rare. Makeup at all is rare these days.

[-] neo2478@sh.itjust.works 2 points 23 hours ago

As a cis dude, I've only done makeup a handful of times in my life for special occasions and parties and such. I cannot imagine doing it every day. One of the things that attracted me to my wife is that she doesn't wear makeup on the day today.

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 4 points 23 hours ago

I used to wear it every day because I couldn't go passed the mirror without seeing him but then eventually I realized I didn't care at all that people knew I was trans and passing culture was toxic as vegan farts. Nowadays I only wear makeup to feel pretty, which isn't often, because I already feel pretty! 😺

Since stopping I have so much free time!

[-] neo2478@sh.itjust.works 4 points 23 hours ago

I am very happy to hear that you can now see you without makeup! Not that my opinion matters, but after '22, I only see a very pretty her!

Also, as a vegan, and to my wife's dismay, I can confirm the toxicity of the farts.

[-] IntroSkeptic@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago

Hottie aleeerrrrrt!!

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 1 points 23 hours ago

ashgshsdhfs, psh. Me? a hottie? Haha thenkies :3

[-] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago

You cute as heck damn

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 2 points 23 hours ago

Aww thenkies :3

[-] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago

heh at first i was like "wait, that's reverse transition" and then i noticed i was reading the diagram in the wrong order.

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 4 points 1 day ago

I guess I made it backwards, huh 🤷‍♀️

Whoopsies!

[-] crowcore_explorer@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago

you look amazing! thanks for sharing your story. mine is very similar except i started 20 years older than you. i'm at a stage where i feel the internalized transphobia whispering to me, but i'm doing my best to ignore it and just let my transition happen as it will. any advice you would give yourself at that point?

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 3 points 23 hours ago

The advice I'd have given myself at that point is: Be true to yourself, be real, and nobody worth a damn cares who you were, only who you are today.

[-] cadekat@pawb.social 5 points 1 day ago

May I ask your rough age when you started?

[-] Duchess@piefed.linenoise.vip 3 points 1 day ago

Well done!

[-] erinyes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago

wow thats a crazy transformation. congrats cutie :3 also i love your philtrum ring. you dont see those very often.

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 2 points 1 day ago

Aww thenks!

I love my philtrum ring, though I'm probably gonna replace it with a stud soon because I keep conking myself in the face and I'm afraid I'm gonna bust my teeth! I used to wear an opal there, it's in the mar23 photo, I'm probably gonna get one of those again :)

[-] Shirow@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

Oh wow :3

[-] subverted_per@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

Damn you look like the kind of lady that owns every room she enters.

[-] ArsonButCute@programming.dev 2 points 1 day ago

Thank you friend!

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