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So we're glorifying paranoia now?
The hell does this have to do with paranoia?
The post was probably purposefully written to be very assertive about lying to bring up strong emotions while being very vague about when to lie so your mind can fill in the blanks about what to ascribe that strong emotional response to. This promotes engagement because you can have multiple conversations going on in the responses where folks are arguing against each other talking about different things while believing they are talking about the same thing. In short, it’s ragebait.
My first thought reading the post was that drama can start if you give an honest opinion that clashes with someone else’s. If I go looking for paranoia I think one could say that lying to your coworkers means you do not trust them. Many people spend a large chunk of their life at work, so one could believe that coworkers are likely to make up a large chunk of the people in your life. From those pieces it could then be said that not trusting a large chunk of the people in your life would make you paranoid. Therefore, it is paranoia to lie to your coworkers and advocating for that lying is advocating for that paranoia.
But I don’t know, I don’t live in Tattorack’s head.
Jesus Christ, did you use AI to write all that??
Uh no, I tried using AI to write something once and it was about the ickiest I've felt at a computer. I just like justifying my thinking with words.
Well you write suspiciously like an AI. But I guess they got their training data from the Internet, after all...
Needing to lie to a large group of people assumes malice from said large group of people. There's no reason to tell your co-workers every detail of your life, but there's absolutely no need to lie about the things you do unless you have reason to believe they're out to get you.
How did you build the bridge across that leap in logic?
I can see the logic, especially if we’re assuming the person who feels they need to lie isn’t doing something wrong. Though that’s mostly because I can’t think of a scenario in which people get angry or create problems because of a refusal to discuss certain topics or an innocent truth without malice (or completely out of line nosiness).
I can’t tell if I’m lacking in imagination or if I’m just more comfortable associating extreme nosiness with malice, though.
That is not a leap in logic, but considering your response I'm questioning the kind of person you are.
The kind of person who tries to make sense?
By the way, are you following the rules of this community?