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I subscribe to the good burger use of dude.
yeah no "dudette" is an abomination of linguistics and I refuse to entertain it, and anyone who does should be met with derision.
We are all dudes on this blursed world. 🙏
It's odd that the gender "neutral" terms are always the masculine ones
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male-as-norm_principle
It's deliberate, for all the same reasons across all of history.
It's why I use terms that (I assume) are genuinely like "folks" and "peeps" and "comrade" etc.
Don't forget "cats"
Everybody wants to be a cat
Oh cool cats, I dig it. That's cool.
Become ungovernable.
Make all words genderless.
Call men "chika".
Call women "brother".
Call your girl cat "bubba"
Call your boy cat "pretty kitty"
No gender = no gender conformity = better world
omg this is pretty cool
I’m sorry but I HATE folks. I’m down with virtually all other gender neutral terms, but I psychologically can’t uncouple ‘folks’ from pseudo-homespun charm put on by people who are sleazebags for various reasons. Anything but folks, I beg (general) you
Another fine word ruined by the US.
I use folks all the time!
...but i'm also a server at waffle house, so I guess I am using southern culture and folksy charm to sell you waffles and coffee. It's a soulless existence, I know, but at least I have my cold, hard cash tips to keep me warm at night.
It comes from the German "volks" (literally "people"), so I just think of it like that. "What's up people?" doesn't sound strange, does it?
I love “folks”! It makes me think of folklore and looney tunes.
I use the word folks regularly :(
That makes me sad
It makes me sad that it made you sad so to correct this I'll go out of my way to use folks from time to time
Yay
Don’t let one person’s pet peeves determine your language, even if they’re my pet peeves!
I only use it to refer to my "parents" cuz saying parents otherwise makes me feel like I'm in grade school again or some shit. Otherwise to refer to others as folks feels weird to me.