Hello there, we got permission from the mod of this community to post about our sibling community here.

We created a sibling community at !transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone that uses a transfem flag we found.

The community will have a different feel and rules to it to this one, so please check out the rules if any here do join it

Thanks for reading this post :).

Found here or Third party privacy frontend

Image description: It's Teenage Nomi-Nomi from the game I Was a Teenage Exocolonist (IWATEx).

They have Multicolored hair that is Pink, Orange, Blue, White and Black. They are have a happy expression on their face. Their eyes are blue with a bit of gold in them and they have star shaped pupils. They have hearts drawn or painted under their eyes. They have a small adhesive bandage on the left side of their jawline.

They are wearing a black shirt facing them and down on the right, again facing them. They are wearing a sweater with a collar/hood thing attached to it. Just above their shoulders is some metal with a necklace attached to it with a triangle pointing up on the left, and on the right another one pointing down. Their sweater is very baggy and magenta at the top slowly fading into orange as it goes down.

Under their black shirt they are wearing shorts or short purple leggings that go down to just above their knees. On their knees are more adhesive bandages which are individually blue, pink and white. Below that on their right leg they have a white sock pulled all the way up inside their boot. The boots they are wearing are black and pink.

On the right boot it has two stars and on the left boot it has three stars, the top one is at the top and goes beyond the top of the boot, and has a line next to it. The soles of their boot are also pink.

They are standing on purple-bluey grass next to a shrub or small tree in front of a path. Behind them a little way down the path is a starship which has wooden stairs constructed next to it leading up to a door in the side. The sky above them is dark with shades of blue and purple, it is raining.

Next to them someone has inserted a screenshot of a post by reb (@rebmasel) which says "I was put on this earth to be silly and then die what is all this brutal reality and grief doing here. interrupting my silly"

When we logged in today we found this.

We would like it removed if possible, thank you.

Alt text (since we got an overflow error the 'official' way):

A banner with a light blue background and a X at the top right to indicate the possibility to close it.

The text says: "Support Lemmy development. An open source project the size of Lemmy needs constant work to manage the project, implement new features and fix bugs. Dessalines and Nutomic work full-time on these tasks and more. As there in no advertising or tracking, all of our work is funded through donations. Even do there is barely enough time in the day, and no time for a second job. The only available option are user donations. To keep it viable donations need to reach a minimum of 5000€ per month, resulting in a modest salary of 2500€ per developer. If that goal is reached we can stop worrying about money, and fully focus on improving the software for the benefit of all users and instances. We especially rely on recurring donations to secure the long-term development and make Lemmy the best it can be.

If you want more information before donating, consider the comparison with Reddit. It began as startup funded by rich investors. The site is managed by corporate executives who over time have become more and more disconnected from normal users. Their main goal is to make investors happy and to make a profit. This leads to user-hostile decisions like firing the employee responsible for AMAs, blocking third-party apps and more. As Reddit is a single website under a single authority, it means all users need to follow the same rules, including ridiculous ones like censoring the name "Luigi".

Lemmy represents a new type of social media which is the complete opposite of Reddit. It is split across many different websites, each with its own rules, and managed by normal people who actually care about the users. There is no company and no profit motive. Much of the work is carried out by volunteer admins, mods and posters, who contribute out of enthusiasm and not for money. For users this is great as there is no advertising nor tracking, and no chance of takeover by a billionaire. Additionally there are no builtin political or ideological restrictions. You can use the software for any purpose you like, add your own restrictions or scrutinize its inner workings. Lemmy truly belongs to everyone.

Nutomic and Dessalines, Lemmy Developers."

There is a slightly darker blue button under this text with the word Donate on it.

So earlier we were assigned mod for the community "queer defense front" on this instance.

The person didn't ask us to be mod or communicate with us at all, then promptly banned us for asking people kindly to not use ableist language.

The rules clearly said zero tolerance for hate, and ableism is hate to us. Plus it seems the person didn't ban those who were being hateful to us (at least not that we can see in the modlog), so double standards we guess?

If you want something specific you have to actually, you know, communicate.

We don't care about the ban (it's not a community we particularly care about), or whatever, just the sheer strangeness of it all and the fact that the person didn't apply the same rules to others as they did us.

We've blocked them and the community. But yeah, maybe don't assign people mods if you've never even asked them or communicated what you want? That's not a gift, that's a terrible responsibility you haven't given them any information or preparation for.

We keep trying, filling in the form and using the code from the link place and it just keeps telling us that there's an error no matter what we do. Could someone or somemany please look into it? Thanks!

We were wondering, what gives you species euphoria? It can be either something that happened one time or it can be something that gives you euphoria time and time again.

We'll start: One time we did something nice for someone else and they gave one of us a shiny rock and their deadname.

It gave us so much species euphoria.

What about y'all?

So using lemmy via the main web ui is very slow to load, and then sometimes only loads a few elements recently.

Can this be fixed?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/28783084

How trying to define ourselves or others define us by assigned sex at birth doesn't serve us and is generally oppressive and incorrect, both scientifically and socially.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/28783084

How trying to define ourselves or others define us by assigned sex at birth doesn't serve us and is generally oppressive and incorrect, both scientifically and socially.

How trying to define ourselves or others define us by assigned sex at birth doesn't serve us and is generally oppressive and incorrect, both scientifically and socially.

Great songs!

Do any of y'all have any advice, tips and tricks on dyeing underarm hair? We are thinking of dyeing it for two different prides and just in general with some manic panic dye as that is apparently deemed to be safe for such things and we were wondering how to do it safely (moreso than just using a safe dye), how long it would last etc.

Any advice, tips and tricks or even links to exhaustive, easy to follow for beginners guides would be useful. Thanks!